T's and their dependability

I have a T who is constantly late. I have been with her 12 years and have come to expect this.

She is never 40 mins late, but often 20. Her appts run for 50 mins.

She has a lot of DID clients, she explains it as sometimes clients need more time per session that she can't account for - which is true I have run overtime myself and it would not be professional to boot me out at the end of the session if I were not in an appropriate head space.

So, I guess I understand. I would not change Ts for the world as this one offers experience (she lecturers in dissociation) and is familiar to use EMDR with patients who have DID (uncommon where I live).

Man, I feel so irritated on your behalf about your therapist running late. It is so unprofessional of her and so unacceptable. Any other job and you'd get fired for being forty minutes late. I think you need to have a stern talking to her, I'm sure you would have some part that would be good at that.

Point out that it is not acceptable to you for her to be running 40mins late to session. That you expect her to be reliable because it is important to your therapy relationship and important that you don't end up triggered by her in that way. Say to her that if there is something that is consistently giving her problems that make her run late, that she really needs to take action to address that, whether that be having a small break between appointments to allow for any runover from previous patients, or her getting some therapy support of her own to address whatever emotional issue it might be that is holding her up. If she can't take action to address that, I'd personally be doubting her stability within herself and whether that will give her problems with treating you further down the track. It's fine for you to be completely selfish and stern about pointing this stuff out, it is your therapy, your money and your wellbeing and everything she does should be catering to that. Yes therapists make mistakes sometimes, but if it is something consistent, they really need to take a good hard look at themselves and work at fixing the issue.

Thank you, everyone.

Genesis has told me she's going to write the T a letter and that I'm not allowed to read it so I won't freak out about anything being said but one of the things she'll address is the T's tardiness.