Talking to the others outloud

Hi, I'm new and I browsed here a little and it made me really happy that I finally can relate my experiences to other people and not feel completely alone.

I share co-consciousness with my other selves and I was wondering if anyone had this happen to them: 4 and I are best friends and we share a lot of inside jokes. She often comments on things I do on the outside world and some of those comments are jokes that make me laugh. It's sort of a problem in public, because I would be walking to school or through the halls and she would say something funny and i can't help but smile and look like big idiot/completely crazy.

It also happens in situations where it's not acceptable to laugh. Like my history teacher is giving a lecture about some bad news like murders and catastrophes and 4 connects it to something completely different, because she couldn't care less about world news, but totally hilarious and if I so much as crack a smile, all my classmates will think I'm a psychopath.

It's always obvious when I struggle not to smile, but it's still better than a full-blown grin because "lol my teacher just said a few words that sound like an Internet meme out of context!" So that got me in the habit of not laughing until someone else laughs. And my delayed laugh is so awkward in small groups.

Also when she comments on things I do and because we both have to have the last word, I have to answer her back. But when I'm in a public setting, I have all my focus on the outside and I have to whisper or mouth out my answer to her. And I have to be super careful that no one confuses me for talking to them.

So any more tips for not looking like I've completely lost my mind in public? Thoughts? Similar experiences?

My girlfriend is always smirking to herself as Jeremy makes comments inside. She's usually pretty good on not speaking out loud to them, and if she does, she blows it off like she thought she heard someone say her name or misheard someone, things like that.

In general, she just thinks back, rather than speaking out loud.

She does, however, speak out loud to them when it's just us or when she's alone. Occasionally, we'll get rapid switching, where both sides are speaking out loud and that's always funny. The other day I was on the phone while they tried to put together a shelf and Jeremy kept messing it up.

I'd say, enjoy yourself when you are alone, indulge in the ability to respond out loud and then when in public, restrain yourself to just thinking it really hard.

Thank you for replying!

All of those are good suggestions.

Thank you for the advice

I am learning to just feel the starting twitch of a smile, so we don't follow through with the whole smile, but we know what it meant. It makes talking to myself much easier in public!

I conversate with them more on the outside. Meaning, I dont answer them in my head.. usually Ill be walking and they go "Ew look at this:"
or "OMGASH LOOK AT THE BIRDIE!" and I will answer, aw so cute,
and then another "I dont like it!" and sometimes I will be saying all this outloud..
sometimes answering them, and sometimes they are speaking through my voice.

Its scary..its gotten me in situations where people bully me...
its embarassing cuz sometimes it happens out of nowhere! so...
ugh scary.

Anybody else speak out their voices? Sometimes I randomly yell out "Im scared!"
and then I have try to stop myself..ugh...

Yeah, I sometimes have to glance to the side or mutter/mouth out a "yeah, I know, right?" Because I can't just ignore her and go without acknowledging her comment. Sometimes we tease each other, before I leave the house, and I jave to keep it low-key because my dad is sometimes home and he doesn't understand.

Sorry, you're getting bullied over this, that's really unfoetunate
Can you maybe talk to your alters and tell them to behave when you're out in public?

Best of luck

Hey pepsinotes, do u ever have alters that repeat the same things impulsively.
I have one that contantly says "I dont like you!" and sometime i scream it out by accident :O
(not mean to hijack thread, just wondering)

TinyPieces wrote: do u ever have alters that repeat the same things impulsively.

Hey,

thought I would reply briefly to this becuase I can relate...

Yes. One of my little's had a couple of obsessive phrases that she used to say over and over again in my head. When I'm in a triggered state she used to actually say them outloud whilst we were walking up teh street too :/ That has calmed down now since they are given space to write or talk to therapist!

bourbon wrote:

TinyPieces wrote: do u ever have alters that repeat the same things impulsively.

Hey,

thought I would reply briefly to this becuase I can relate...

Yes. One of my little's had a couple of obsessive phrases that she used to say over and over again in my head. When I'm in a triggered state she used to actually say them outloud whilst we were walking up teh street too :/ That has calmed down now since they are given space to write or talk to therapist!

I am so happy somebody relates PHEW! Thought I was the ONLY ONE! :O
I have lots that repeat compulsively and I almost always say em outloud, it kinda makes it look like its tourettes but Its not.Im so glad Im not alone. I too have had the "im in the street talking" problem

Sorry to say I don't have Littles that do that. So I can't help. :/