Melding ? no idea if this is possible :(

?- Can an alter meld with another alt, or a new alter in the system, without anyone else being aware of the melding in the system at all? That it just happened, no-one had any idea, their system in crisis mode right now, because said alter was trying to eliminate other alts to live his own life.. as of now, im hearing this alt/with new or previous alt, is evil, demonic, not himself at all, and to top it off now hates me, when he was MY HUSBAND, and has been loving since we met... Im told 'our love' was just an act basically for him, to get to where he needed in life, thinking I would accept his PLAN, to eliminate the rest of the alts.. when i said NO- they are thinking thats when he melded for more power and strenght and is a completely different person... They are trying to find solutions, to all come together along with me, the SO of most of them.., but that 'my husband/demon now' will not give in and there was an internal battle with him not giving up...
The Core, or so they think, my other husband, has been holding him back, but has been inside doing this.. i am now dealing only with the ish, i believe and a new male alt... they were told not to speak to them until it was over, its been a couple weeks already... The new male alt said, my husband/demon DOES not want them with me now... ( they believe everyone needs to be on the same page, and im deathly afraid of losing them all .... help pleaseeeeeee.... A few have also stated that since they are not really educated or in therapy regarding their DID, they feel they are not 'text book' and anything ive read or suggestions that have been made, does not pertain to them.. ANY HELP PLEASE....

-- Mon Feb 06, 2012 5:46 am --

BTW, the new alts believe that my husband who is holding him back, is eventually going to give in the fight.. does any of this make sense?

If you love it, let it go.

You'll be okay without him for a while. Give him and the others time to work this out. If for whatever reason you two end up not being together, it will hurt but you will still be okay. If you do work it out and stay together, he will be all the stronger and you will have a better, stronger, more stable partner.

When inner wars happen, those on the outside can only be there for support. You can't fix anything for them. Just be there when they needs you and keep going with your own life.

thanks for the reply.. i was just imformed he spoke and told them all, including the new alts that if anyone has anything to do with me, he will keep hurting them and fighting.. if they cut me out of their lives, that he can be trusted and will all the sudden be a team player.. no of this makes sense, and they are still at war..
i told them, its a choice and right now he is winning.. that the master needs to own his role and put him ( my husband) in his place.. that the majority of all of them, love me, are in love with me want peace and love and to be with me.. we are all at a loss atm living without them, is not a choice for me, i know i will survive for my children but a life without them is not a life to me..

I'm sorry all of this is happening to you.

If it would help them any, very few people here have "text book" DID. Even if no one here has the exact same type of system they have, the advice should still be similiar enough to help.

I have to agree with Ashes, though. Remember to take care of yourself as well. It's nice that you care this much, but hurting yourself in the process helps no one. Take care, alright?

Good luck to you.
~Rage

I don't properly understand what you have written and so I have a few questions.

The husband that you mention, is this a separate person with their own body who you are married to in law, or is the husband someone on the inside of you like an alter? If the husband is a separate person is it you or him that has DID, or do you both have it?

Are you saying you have DID but the husband only wants to be married to one alter and wishes the others were not there?

You mention the husband trying to get rid of others, do you mean other alters? If so, what methods is he useing to try to get rid of alters? Are these your alters or his alters that he is trying to get rid of?

Sorry I didn't undersand your situation and had to ask all these questions. X