Pressing charges?

Jackie here.

TRIGGER WARNING- CONTACT WITH ABUSER

The other day the man that donated his sperm to make our body and then used it for his own amusement added us on facebook. It was thanksgiving so I guess it has been longer than the other day but ###$ it.

So I accepted the friend request, wrote "Pedophile. I remember everything" and then removed his as a friend and blocked him. A message still got through- a private message, that Self didn't find until a week or so later. I read it. It was full of BS saying that our mother is a witch because she levitates people (anyone heard of light as a feather, stiff as a board- well according to him if you play that game you are a witch).

Anyways, he says that he believes we were molested but not by him, never by him. That it was done by evil spirits our mother summoned. Then he goes on to give details of how he was sexually abused as a kid by nuns and how he vowed to never do that to his kids.

Then he goes to say that we were born to be a prophet for jesus.

If that wasn't enough, just now in the mail we got a letter from him, saying the same #######4 and all kinds of stuff. Luckily it was addressed to our old address and forwarded. He doesn't know where we live. His address is on the letter though. Arabella is having thoughts of showing up at his door with a gun and I'm trying really hard to stay the level headed one.

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So, I think I'm taking the letter and writting up a written statement detailing what he has done to this body and delievering it to the police.

Everyone in the system is in arms. Self vanished inside at the first sight of his handwritting on the letter. Some are saying that if we do, he will kill our mother as that was always his threat. Some on supporting Arabella, some are just hiding.

Anyone gone through and pressed charges? I just want him to leave us alone and get him on the list of convicted sex offenders. I don't give a $#%^ if he does jailtime or not but Arabella likes the thought of him going to prison and having everyone there know that he is a pedophile. That thought is comforting to me as well.

Open to suggestions. I'm gonna start typing up a detailed list of information for the police in the meantime.

What an intense situation. And I am so sorry this is happening to you. Can you get some sort of court order against him so that he is not able to make contact with you through any means? It is not really fair on you and your system to have to constantly be alert to facebook messages or letters from him that may through you all off stability a bit. I have never pressed any charges but I think by taking action against this you are doing the right thing.

Thinking of you
Bourbon

ashesoflife
How long ago was the abuse?Depending on where you live statute of limitations may apply.Remember in such cases she said he said is not sufficient,there must be witnesses to the crime and supporting evidence to the crime.You maybe able to get some type of restraining order.Believe you would be hard pressed at this time for charges of stalking,once again proof and wittnesses are what is need here.Laws very from state to state and country to country. Check with local law enforcement they maybe able to help.Good luck amd you will be in our thougts.
Regards
Thomas Lee
Watcheroflights

Jackie, this is awful. Could your father have DID? He says he was abused by others, and he thinks you were abused but not by him, by "evil spirits" summoned by someone else. Summoned from where? Perhaps from inside him? And to abuse you they would normally require use of a body. Perhaps his body?

Can you get a restraining order against without disclosing your address to him?

ashesoflife
If the statute of limitations are up you maybe able to go after him on the civil side for damages and pain and suffering.You will need a good lawyer for this.Just the threat of a civil suit maybe enough to get him to back off.Hang on to the letter.Do not confront him yourself this could make matters worse.Let law enforcement or a lawyer handle him.I will not tell you either way is easy and remember you will be force to take a lot of questioning and sometime some deep BS to get the matter settled. Above all stop the abuse.
Thomas Lee
Watcheroflights

I hope everything goes well, you're in my thoughts.

I don't know what to do. I wrote the letter but Self doesn't want me to send it. I was planning on hand delievering it to the state police.

She thinks that this will make the papers and destroy life as she knows it and that the kids might get picked on for their mom being abused. It's pretty ###$ up.

One exception to the statute of limitations for sexual abuse and molestation in Pennsylvania surrounds what is known as the common law "discovery rule." The application of this rule allows victims to file suit within two years of the time: (1) they discover the injury; and (2) they discover the source of the injury. However, it is important to note that Pennsylvania, unlike many other states, has rejected the repressed memory theory as a tool to apply the discovery rule. The repressed memory theory is applicable to situations where victims of sexual assault and molestation have subconsciously forced themselves to forget the occurrence of abuse for many years.

The theory of "fraudulent concealment" may also extend the statute of limitations in Pennsylvania sexual abuse and molestations cases. In order for this theory to be applicable, the Plaintiff must establish the defendant committed some affirmative independent act of concealment upon which the Plaintiff justifiably relied. This exception may be applicable if the Defendant provides the Plaintiff with information which misleads the Plaintiff, and thereby causes him/her to forego filing suit.

There are other exceptions to the statute of limitations in sexual abuse and molestations cases which are less common. Each case presents with a unique set of facts, and it is extremely important to consult with an experienced sexual abuse and molestation attorney even if you believe that the statute of limitations on your case has expired. The sooner you consult with an attorney, the better the chance your rights will be protected.

I don't want court $#%^ and to deal with attorneys. If he continues to bother us, I'll let Arabella handle it.

We have no proof other than he said/she said. The system is really ###$ up.

That letter is pretty much an admission, IMO. That is how I interpret it. Not sure if it would work in a court, unless there is some psychologist expert of some sort to explain the meaning.

Try not to go too far in handling it yourself or let Arabella go too far. No point in letting him win even more of your life when you all get prosecuted.

ashesoflife
I tried to answer you PM but the system is not letting me send messages, ever time I hit submit it goes to preview and will not sent.Get a restraining order, local law enforcement should be able to help.Also InfinitD is right let the law enforcement handle this or the courts.
Best Regards
Thomas Lee
Watcheroflights