What r we linguistically made of?

May Trigger.
I was reading an article that i found very interesting. It talked about linguistic attachment figures, and verbal flashbacks. How this all starts is a human universal. What happens when a child has to breathe n mocking words each day? Sometimes that mocking voice gets taken inside and finds a home. It then stays hurting and corroding on the inside, when the original source of that cruelty might long ago have disappeared or died.
A mocking Spirit.
The article listed an example of a woman, that whenever she made a mistake, she mocked herself with the words of her sadistic father, even though he had died more than 20 years ago. By keeping his angry words she was feeling him alive and sparing herself from the helplessness of being a victim on the receiving end. By shouting at herself she was identifying with him,being him, therefore not having to remember being the frightened unwanted helpless little child. A linguistic attachment figure. A verbal flashback.
The article didnt really mention how 2 break out of this, but 2 me it seems logical that allowing oneself to identify with the child inside that those words were spoken 2, would b a good place 2 start. A large part of my healing has come from thinking about what i am thinking about and breaking agreement with some of my thoughts. It is my mind, and I know that what i focus on grows. I am the gardner of my own mind, though it is still a work in progress. Blessings

I would imagine it is extremely common for children to internalise the words that was spoken to them again and again.

**trigger warning***

I don't remember too many things that my parents used to say, it was more about waht they did. But I do remember them calling me a slob, which I call myself, and them saying that I was weak and pathetic and need to grow up. All of these things are things that I have used against myself. I was compared to my sister a lot so I am now very quick to compare myself to my sister, or to other people.

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You learn how to behave and how to act and speak from those around you. If it's negative, then the chances you will continue to think negative things like that is quite high i'd imagine. I think healing is a lot about examining your self beliefs and examining if they are truly your own, or if they have been internalisd from a parent. Breaking these self beliefs can be hard but also releasing, to know that you have your own mind now and you don't need to believe what they do about yourself.

I dunno, rambling.

Bourbon

oooo...really good thread. It remind me of Maya Angelou, she talked about words are things and stuff.

Sometimes that mocking voice gets taken inside and finds a home.

Definitely, every time I look in the mirror, my mom's voice pops up. Thx.

I think healing is a lot about examining your self beliefs and examining if they are truly your own, or if they have been internalisd from a parent. Breaking these self beliefs can be hard but also releasing, to know that you have your own mind now and you don't need to believe what they do about yourself.

Really good point!

I have thought for a long time that the things I experience are verbal flashbacks. Sometimes it's like a recording of something she said to me once, playing in my head over and over and over. Thanks for posting.