Fear of Communication - Cults, Threats, Etc...

So today at Therapy my T came to the same conclusion that I have from my dreams, alters reactions, etc...

They are terrified to speak or write.

What if... my dad used cult like ways for his abuse?

I don't know the man. He has been dead for 25 years. Maybe he was into cults for all I know, but I doubt it. I only mention this because these people seem to be masters at this sort of abuse and getting a person to stay silent. Maybe I can learn something that will help by studying them.

I assume he was taught as an abused child to keep his mouth shut. Then he knew how to make sure I never did as well. My brother seems to have done the same to me from my alters reactions to him. Some fear him too.

Are there books we can read? Many of those inside like to read along with me or are there suggestions? Everyone here on this group that I have read about, either their alters talk freely or they don't talk at all.


I have done all the obvious things.
1. Explain over and over and over again its 2011 and the abuse happened 40 some years ago.
2. Told them they can just talk or write and it does not have to be about any abuse.
3. I parent them and love them all no matter how they act.
4. They are in a safe place. At least the 21 I know of.
5. Most of mine all have PTSD big time, but a couple do not. If its that why won't they talk?


I have these roadblocks.
1. The only Dreams I have had in months are that I killed someone after telling of the abuse but I never know who or how, just that I am responsible for the murder of someone. I wish I knew who!
2. Alters try to talk and can't so they switch quickly when I press them to communicate with something other than expressions and emotion.
3. A young baby said this morning said "swing" and it felt like all 21 freaked at once. I have no idea how many, but dang! FEAR!!!! We went into convulsions.
4. I know they want to talk and share and spend time with me and my T. They love it! They are NOT afraid of us!

It's like they are all terrified if they talk to anyone about anything something horrible will happen as in someone will be killed. I hope the little one that said "swing" does not get locked up by them.

It's certainly possible. I'm very sorry if that is the case.

In our system, the alters talk to me freely. Why? Because they feel secure that they could erase my memory or over write my personality if need be. >.<
To each system their own, I suppose.

It sounds to me like your father threatened to kill someone you cared about if you ever told about the abuse. That sounds like it would definitely scare alters into silence! Make sure the older ones understand that the father is long dead. He cannot hurt anyone. He cannot kill anyone. He is gone. They are finally safe.

Good luck.
~Rage

I have gone over him being dead for 25 years with all of them individually and as a group on a daily basis. We all sit on the mat in the safe place and look at the calendar wall and go over it daily.


My dreams indicate they still fear even when I tell.

I just don't know how to get around this. There must be something that works!
Has anyone had this problem. If I can even get one to talk, the rest will follow I think.

The pre-teens are the oldest and we have talked of it many times in many different ways. I even have it on the tapes I listen to daily. Most still have PTSD, so perhaps they are still stuck in trauma time.

Maybe time is all that will help. My T says they will eventually, but I want them to feel safe and talk now! Even a hi. How are you today sort of talk.

Sophie didn't used to talk even internally. If we wanted to know something we'd ask something specific then pay attention to the emotion coming from her and her body language.

Kerry. X


Why do you want to push your alters to talk? You wouldn't like it if someone was pestering you to talk when you didn't feel safe with it. Stop harrassing them and get inventive with your questions. If you're specific enough with the questions you get the answers you want just from the emotional reactions and body language.

Sorry I sound a bit stroppy I just don't like the idea of anyone getting pushed around. And I'm sorry you got abuse as a child. And I'm sorry it's doing your head in... Ok Kerry, am I done with the sorrys now?

Chloe. X

yep i think so thank you x