Suggestions

I have another alter that doesn't seem to be good, he puts bad thoughts into my head and says bad things. I have been holding him in and i can tell that he doesnt like it. Ive tried just trying to reason with him but that doesnt seem to work either. Ive started to have seizures whenever he gets overwelming and i dont let him out. Its starting to scare my friends and me because there getting worse. I would just let him out because thats what ive done with others but i honestly dont trust this one. I dont like to admit it but im really scared. Even my other alters seem to not like him.

Any suggestions would be helpful.

Thanks.

Hi. I'm rather new at this so it probably won't be magical advice but it's where I'm at. I know how you feel. I feel that way towards one. She is severely self destructive and very powerful. I hold her in. This is what drives me to depression. The last time, she almost won. Almost. So close that I had to make a choice. I chose life. She has not made recovery easy but as I start to confront these problems, I get a little of My power back.

I wish you well my friend. Stay strong. This place is what keeps me well. I visit daily. Sending prayers and good energy your way.

Thanks, even if u feel like u couldnt be that instructive knowing im not the only one suffering from this helps alot. i had a problem with another one but i eventually came to an understanding with him. this one is different though. maybe it wants for us to lose, but i think u made the right choice and i will try the same. as much as it sucks being this way sometimes, i love my friends and family. i try to look at in a way that all this only makes me stronger, as it seems to have done for you.

Thanks, alot

Even though this alter seems to be "bad" to you, that has probably been an important role for him to take to help protect you from your abusers in the past. For example, he might have been the one to side with and agree with your abusers in the past so that they wouldn't hurt you further. Through doing this, he might have eventually come to truly believe what they were telling him and so now continues to think in that pattern even though the abuse has ended. It doesn't mean he is bad. In fact he is good for taking on such a difficult role. It just means that he will need lots of help.

Do you have a therapist? We have a policy with ours who are like that to only let them out during therapy sessions. That means that they have time where they are let out which will make them feel better but it also means that they won't be let out during a time when it might be more destructive to our life. It also means that they will get the help they need by talking to our therapist.