Transgender or Highjacked?

A year ago my friend with DID told me she was afraid that one of her male alters would take over her life, and he would want to live it like his own, as a man. He has taken over before, and she has told me she doesn't trust him and he scares her. Now she says she is getting a sex change operation, she's skipping the legal steps of doing it and found a doctor that will sign the needed paperwork without requiring therapy. She's doing it all very fast and she has distanced herself from me almost completely. Her gf never denies that she is in love with the alter and loves him more. My friend has told me that she thinks if he did take over her gf would love to be with him and wouldn't try to stop him from doing whatever she wants. For a long time I thought she was just worried about nothing until I talked to the gf and she doesn't even see a problem with him messing up her life. She's on his side all the way and now I believe what my friend told me and I think the gf wants to be with him if she could choose. I'm so afraid that it's him, I'm almost positive. The gf has called her by his name and I don't know what to think. If my friend were getting a sex change and needed a male name, I don't think she would want to be called the name of the guy her gf is in love with. It has caused so many fights between them. She hasn't told anyone what she wants to change her name to, but the gf already called her by his name. The more I think about all the little things that are coming together and remembering what she has told me about the two of them, the more I believe it really is him. I wish I had someone to talk to, to tell the whole story cause it's so much more complicated than this. I'm scared.
I would love if I had someone to talk to that believes DID is real and I'm not just a moron for believing in it myself.

Do you know the name of this doctor? If you do, look him up and call him ASAP! Tell him that his soon-to-be patient has a psychological disorder and that she is clearly unable to make the decision of the sex change at this time. It could be a major malpractice if she goes through with the change and is mentally ill at the moment. Alters DO have needs, and as much as I would like to look down and see my own d*ck I would never affect my core's body because of my needs, as I was not here first. Seriously if something as serious as surgery is going to be done to forever change this person's life, it needs to be stopped until a psyche evaluation is done to be sure she is okay with it. Her girlfriend sounds like a real ass to not care about her and only her alter, is she crazy to let her body be sliced and diced without any care about the aftermath??

I hope you can get the chance to intervene!

Yes, it is never a good idea to go under the knife without doctors qualifying you and the therapist making sure your mind is ready for it. Not everyone can have the surgery and survive. It is very invasive.

My therapist mentions DID will complicate the issue but everyone in the system has to be willing to through the transition before it can be done. If she is afraid the male alter will come out permanently then changing the body will not change that. It will just cause him or others to get angry and upset, which complicates the cooperation and healing process.

Also, being a transwoman is a hard life in itself, much less adding DID to the mix. Please make sure you mention this to her and try to get her to understand!

Is she even transgender to begin with? or the original rather?! Hell, I want my male body back from Sarah but I have no right to take that from her, being she is the original. She would rather die, and I want to see her happy. If she isn't transgender, then why go through the changes? Just to stop him from taking over? That won't do anything because even though the body would be different he would still be male, you can't change his personality or mind. I know i'm not talking to her directly but try and relay that to her. That is just plan silly, dangerous, and bound to be regretted later.

I don't know what Dr. it is. I wish I did. He's breaking the law by not taking the appropriate steps.
I can't really relay much to her about anything, she has pulled away from communication with me of late.
Also..... gf is an ass! I'm glad someone else can see it too.

Trying your best seems all you can do at this point. I'm hoping she can reason with herself before it is too late.
and yes, the girlfriend is far from helpful.

this is a very difficult one. our host is ftm, but we also have a male majority and the girls are resentful but won't attack the idea of going through with it.

At the same time, this sounds like her life is being hijacked. this surgeon is doing it on informed consent, but that still requires a level of mental stablitiy (which is what gatekeeprs are actually for suppoedly) I think he's still breaking the law by not doing any evals, because of the nature of the elective surgery.

Please, try to reach her.