A little advice?

So, I'm new not only to the whole DID, but also to sharing it. I had a feeling I was DID for a long time, but there was a part of me that didn't want to believe it. I did everything I could just to make myself believe it wasn't real.
Before I go into more details, let me give everyone a bit of back story.
I'm a girl.
I'm 18 years old.
Only child of divorced parents.
Currently, I have two alters, both male, Demetri and Zach.
I come from an abusive household, which is one of the main reasons for my DID.
I want to be an actor when I grow up, mainly having to do with the fact that I love to be anyone else but myself.

Some people, including some members of my family, say that my DID is just an excuse to get attention I didn't get as a child.
I hope that you all will believe that this isn't just some childish game, those of you who understand.

Let me talk about my alters. We'll start with the oldest of the two - Demetri.
I first learned about Demetri, or Demi as I call him, when I was in first grade. I didn't have many friends, and I spend most of my time alone. I wouldn't call him mean or anything, but he is quite protective of me. I don't blame him. When anything would go bad, he would come and help, even if it was something as simple as not being able to reach something. He's smarter then me, which also helps. He's see so much through my eyes, and yet nothing has ever changed him.
I'm not sure if it is a bad thing in any way, but i hope that an alter being out for a long period of time doesn't hurt me in anyway. from 7th to 9th grade, Demetri was the one who was out. I had locked myself away inside me. He was there to protect me even when my friends and family weren't. I feel like he knows me even more then I know myself. On another note, he's quite nice. I used to have blackouts whenever he took over, but now, he lets me watch him, if and when I let him out.

On the other hand, Zach is quite the handful. He just only showed himself to me a few weeks ago, and he's already become a handful. He's loud, annoying and in-your-face with rude comments to share abound. Compared to Demi, he's a child. The issue is that, unlike his "Older brother" he won't listen to me. He comes out at the strangest of times, and says the most horrid things. While I'm at school, I try to keep him in check, with the help of Demi, but sometimes it doesn't work. He's hot headed and can blow up so fast. I guess I'm just not used to it yet, but I feel like it's starting to take a toll on my body.

I haven't been sleeping well, or eating right since he showed up. Could it be his doing? Demetri never acted out like this, though granted that all alters are different. I wouldn't say I'm running out of choices, but I'm starting to get tired of all this. I don't want to force him away, because he is a part of me, but I don't want him to keep acting out like this. I've tried to talk to him, but my words don't seem to get through. In fact, it seems like he's hell-bent on doing everything in his power to do the opposite of what I say. I've tried reverse psychology on him, but he sees through it.
I'm not on my last leg, but I'd like some advice if anyone is willing to give it.
Thank you for your time.
It feels nice to get some of these things off my chest for the first time.
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First off, congratulations on sharing! That alone is an accomplishment.

Also thank you for sharing about your alters, they sound like great guys!

Anyways, I have a theory as to the purpose of both your alters. It seems like you know Demetri's purpose, he is what many would call your "protector," the alter created to protect you from harmful situations. All the characteristics you use to describe Demetri sound like protector characteristics.

Now onto the troublesome one . It sounds to me like Zach was formed by all the impulses and thoughts you may have repressed over the years in order to protect yourself from ridicule. I say this because I have a few alters who serve the same purpose. Lou (short for Louis) is highly inappropriate and says all sorts of perverse things. He is also very funny, and proud of who he is, the others look up to him. Likewise, I'm sure Zach also has his positive character-traits, and ideally, he needs to be able to express his thoughts in feelings, albeit in a controlled and relatively safe environment. We are still working on creating an environment like that for Lou.

There is also Adnan who is stoic, sarcastic and can be very blunt and rude, so unfortunately we don't get to let him out. However, for a healthy alter environment, I would like to get to a place where I can let all my alters out.

To being this process, I would say it is very good Demetri is allowing you to see what is going on, that means he is opening the lines of communication. I would suggest, instead of making Zach your enemy, talk to him, he has reasons for what he does, not matter how obscure or obscene his actions. That is an important things I've learned through my own alters. It is a good idea to sit down (figuratively, of course) with your alters and talk. Just talk about anything, get to know each other, and as you learn more about the nuances of your alters, the reasons for their actions will become more clear.

I am sorry about the hardships you've had to endure, and I wish you the best.

Thanks for sharing, and if you need someone to talk to, send me a message or IM.

Hey. Thanks for sharing~

So. I know EXACTLY how you feel. I'm pretty much in the same boat as you. Though, I'm only sixteen. My parents have, for as long as I can remember, constantly been fighting, physically and verbally. Dad became abusive towards me about two or three years back. Did I mention he's an alcoholic? Anyways. He shot a guy in the leg. And now he's in jail while my mom is filling out divorce papers.
Oh. Some things happened when I was 11, but I'm not gonna get into that one.

Anyways. I've always been antisocial and whatnot, so without any friends as a young girl, I felt extremely alone.

Now I have seven alters. Fun.. *Sarcasm*

So, yeah. I know exactly how you feel. So, if you wanna PM me and talk, you can anytime. I'm on every day. ^-^