Am I Doing Something Wrong

Hi Everyone
I am not sure if I am doing the right thing Heidi's older brother is visiting and he's being very mean to her and keeps giving her an attitude I couldn't help it but I had dissociated Heidi to keep her safe and yelled at her brother I don't know if I'm doing the right thing or not keeping her dissocated but he's always very mean to her and when he goes home all she will hear from her mum is how she has to be more like her brother. Both her mother and brothe are verbally abusive to Heidi and I just feel one of us needs to be out to keep her safe when they are being mean to her so she will stay safe. please let me know if I'm doing the wrong thing also any adivce will be great for we are looking for new ways to get Heidi to relax and stay relaxed.
Ricky

You're doing the right thing by keeping her away from her brother and mom. Yelling at her brother, though, will not help at all even though he may deserve it. Anyone who can bully someone else loves it when that other person gets angry and yells back because they know they are having their desired effect on that person. The only thing we know to do when people in our family start being arseholes is to say something like, "I'm sorry you're in a bad mood but it's not my fault and
I don't deserve to take the brunt of your sh*tty mood." Or, "I get that you're angry for some reason, but I didn't piss you off, so you have no right to take it out on me." When neither of those work we walk away.

The best thing you can continue to do is to keep her inside and away from even having to know what's going on out here. When things like this happen to me, I'm inside until they're over (i.e. her brother leaves) and inside I'm doing things I enjoy and am surrounded by people I know care about me. That helps a lot.

-Mikaela

I believe you are doing the right thing. Abuse is never good.

I really think you're doing the right thing. You're protecting her from his presence, from his uneeded verbal crap, from her having to pretend that everything's ok when she'd really rather wack him with a pillow {at the very least}, and she also doesn't have to deal with as much aftermath. I agree that yelling may not help things {might make it worse and she might never hear the end of it especially from her mother}, however, sometimes it just needs to be done, or sometimes it just happens. No one's perfect. Not even the ones who say/think they are. I know I'm not able to stop myself from yelling at everything that moves around me at times {and other times I just can't even hope to defend myself or speak up like I should}. But, for right now, I'm agreeing with you on how you're protecting her. I hope she feels the same way too, especially since you only have really good intentions and are doing your best.

i think your in the right =] your keeping her safe so thats good! they don't sound like good people to be around.