A proper introduction :)

smallcat wrote:Elo

Sounds like a nice system y'got there. Would be cool to talk moree
Jen

Thanks .. if anyone comes out I'll be sure to remind them they can talk here maybe that could help me and whoever else too.

If your angry alter's interested, Malice is willing to talk.

She used to be "evil." very angry, very hateful, malicious, spiteful, enjoyed messing with people psychologically, control games, the like, until she calmed down and came around. She is actually a fantastic protector nowadays.

~raises an eyebrow~ Aecy's volunteering me for things again... ~Snorts softly~ I'll talk to him if he's willing to let me be a b**** back. I'm blunt and I have no intention of being gentle with people's feelings unless I damned well think it appropriate, which I can't predict right now. I can be, but I refuse to make promises I know I won't keep. However, venting, etc. Talking to someone similar is ok with me. Just so long as he's prepared and understands that I'm not to be treated lightly. I fully intend to be treated with respect, and if I'm not, I will very likely say exactly what my assessment of the situation is before walking off without a second thought.

I can be very nice, kind, gentle, etc. But if and only if I feel I'm being properly respected. As long as he's not aiming his hate directly at me, chances are it'll go very well indeed, but I don't feel that it would be honest to encourage any illusions Aecy may unwittingly project concerning me.

If he's willing to accept a conversation on my terms, then bring it on, I'm game. I'd love to give it a go and see if I can't help him out a bit. ~Purrs internally, tail swaying slowly as I give a soft grin~

I think you should give it a try. She's intimidating as a defense mechanism, and to make sure people aren't caught offguard if she is blunt/harsh with them. ^ ^ She's attempting to do the right thing regarding the issue. She hates hurting people nowadays, she's just not afraid to do what she thinks is necessary. Also, she did help out our SO's aggressive protector, so she does have some experience with it, even if it's somewhat... different. ^_^;

Aecy wrote: ~raises an eyebrow~ Aecy's volunteering me for things again... ~Snorts softly~ I'll talk to him if he's willing to let me be a b**** back. I'm blunt and I have no intention of being gentle with people's feelings unless I damned well think it appropriate, which I can't predict right now. I can be, but I refuse to make promises I know I won't keep. However, venting, etc. Talking to someone similar is ok with me. Just so long as he's prepared and understands that I'm not to be treated lightly. I fully intend to be treated with respect, and if I'm not, I will very likely say exactly what my assessment of the situation is before walking off without a second thought.

I can be very nice, kind, gentle, etc. But if and only if I feel I'm being properly respected. As long as he's not aiming his hate directly at me, chances are it'll go very well indeed, but I don't feel that it would be honest to encourage any illusions Aecy may unwittingly project concerning me.

If he's willing to accept a conversation on my terms, then bring it on, I'm game. I'd love to give it a go and see if I can't help him out a bit. ~Purrs internally, tail swaying slowly as I give a soft grin~

Oh now hello Malice, you sound like my kinda alter. Somebody who understands that respect is tantamount. I cannot accept people who treat me like I'm nothing. I like your style . Jen.

smallcat wrote:

Aecy wrote: ~raises an eyebrow~ Aecy's volunteering me for things again... ~Snorts softly~ I'll talk to him if he's willing to let me be a b**** back. I'm blunt and I have no intention of being gentle with people's feelings unless I damned well think it appropriate, which I can't predict right now. I can be, but I refuse to make promises I know I won't keep. However, venting, etc. Talking to someone similar is ok with me. Just so long as he's prepared and understands that I'm not to be treated lightly. I fully intend to be treated with respect, and if I'm not, I will very likely say exactly what my assessment of the situation is before walking off without a second thought.

I can be very nice, kind, gentle, etc. But if and only if I feel I'm being properly respected. As long as he's not aiming his hate directly at me, chances are it'll go very well indeed, but I don't feel that it would be honest to encourage any illusions Aecy may unwittingly project concerning me.

If he's willing to accept a conversation on my terms, then bring it on, I'm game. I'd love to give it a go and see if I can't help him out a bit. ~Purrs internally, tail swaying slowly as I give a soft grin~

Oh now hello Malice, you sound like my kinda alter. Somebody who understands that respect is tantamount. I cannot accept people who treat me like I'm nothing. I like your style . Jen.

~Chuckles~ Indeed. But to get respect, one must learn respect as well, and that takes practice. It's not easy to learn, but I must say, it's quite worth the trouble. ~Smirks~ Doesn't mean I can't be intimidating or have my temper or the like, I simply had to learn where to use our sorts of strengths to the best effect. It sounds like a crappy deal, but in the end, it turned out to give me exactly the result I've been wanting all along.

Aecy wrote: ~raises an eyebrow~ Aecy's volunteering me for things again... ~Snorts softly~ I'll talk to him if he's willing to let me be a b**** back. I'm blunt and I have no intention of being gentle with people's feelings unless I damned well think it appropriate, which I can't predict right now. I can be, but I refuse to make promises I know I won't keep. However, venting, etc. Talking to someone similar is ok with me. Just so long as he's prepared and understands that I'm not to be treated lightly. I fully intend to be treated with respect, and if I'm not, I will very likely say exactly what my assessment of the situation is before walking off without a second thought.

I can be very nice, kind, gentle, etc. But if and only if I feel I'm being properly respected. As long as he's not aiming his hate directly at me, chances are it'll go very well indeed, but I don't feel that it would be honest to encourage any illusions Aecy may unwittingly project concerning me.

If he's willing to accept a conversation on my terms, then bring it on, I'm game. I'd love to give it a go and see if I can't help him out a bit. ~Purrs internally, tail swaying slowly as I give a soft grin~

Nice to meet you Malice. I don't want to give my name out to anyone just yet, I feel like it would be putting too much of myself out there for the time being. I respect you if you respect me . Bitch all you want, that seems to be what people think Katie is when I jump out and run a muck but I feel that's just me being brutally honest. I don't mean to hurt anyone or be so down right angry but it's what comes naturally for me. People pick on her and push her around and I am NOT going to let that happen, not on my watch will she be bullied! She also thinks that Saimi is the only one who pushes men away. We're all dogs, dumb and inconsiderate dogs. She doesn't need to have anything to do with us but she insists on dating and falling for them and their games... Ugh, she'll never learn.

Is there anything in particular you wanted to speak to me about? I promise I won't bite . Katie seems to be getting used to us speaking now, which is freeing, I feel cooped up way too often with no way to speak god damn it!!

Katariina wrote:

Aecy wrote: ~raises an eyebrow~ Aecy's volunteering me for things again... ~Snorts softly~ I'll talk to him if he's willing to let me be a b**** back. I'm blunt and I have no intention of being gentle with people's feelings unless I damned well think it appropriate, which I can't predict right now. I can be, but I refuse to make promises I know I won't keep. However, venting, etc. Talking to someone similar is ok with me. Just so long as he's prepared and understands that I'm not to be treated lightly. I fully intend to be treated with respect, and if I'm not, I will very likely say exactly what my assessment of the situation is before walking off without a second thought.

I can be very nice, kind, gentle, etc. But if and only if I feel I'm being properly respected. As long as he's not aiming his hate directly at me, chances are it'll go very well indeed, but I don't feel that it would be honest to encourage any illusions Aecy may unwittingly project concerning me.

If he's willing to accept a conversation on my terms, then bring it on, I'm game. I'd love to give it a go and see if I can't help him out a bit. ~Purrs internally, tail swaying slowly as I give a soft grin~

Nice to meet you Malice. I don't want to give my name out to anyone just yet, I feel like it would be putting too much of myself out there for the time being. I respect you if you respect me . Bitch all you want, that seems to be what people think Katie is when I jump out and run a muck but I feel that's just me being brutally honest. I don't mean to hurt anyone or be so down right angry but it's what comes naturally for me. People pick on her and push her around and I am NOT going to let that happen, not on my watch will she be bullied! She also thinks that Saimi is the only one who pushes men away. We're all dogs, dumb and inconsiderate dogs. She doesn't need to have anything to do with us but she insists on dating and falling for them and their games... Ugh, she'll never learn.

Is there anything in particular you wanted to speak to me about? I promise I won't bite . Katie seems to be getting used to us speaking now, which is freeing, I feel cooped up way too often with no way to speak god damn it!!

I know exactly what you mean, but we would always get hurt when I came out. ~Snorts~ Defending ourselves brought more pain, so of course I became the "demon." I did cause problems; I'll give them that, but you're right. We're very honest, and I don't think that society appreciates that as much as it might. I don't know about you, but that's one of the chief factors I appreciate in a person. I also know what you mean about who does what; I don't know about you, but we tended to take the crap for the others a helluvalot before we started learning to face our own crap.

We had to push Aecy to the back to let the rest of us develop; she tells everyone outside what they want to hear and tried to force us to do whatever would cause the least amount of resistance or unhappiness in others. It's not that she means badly, but she makes promises we can't keep, and I hated that, especially since she was such a goody-goody. We didn't understand; I was repressed, I had to be. I understand that now, but at the time, all I wanted was to make her and everything and everyone she cared about suffer.

Also, eh. I'm not after anything specific, but If you all are like me, you want to talk to someone who speaks your language. ~Cackles~ No way in hell would I let us go after guys irl. We had no opportunity before, and now that we do, no. I much prefer online in any case; we can get far more creative with it. Especially if you can find a nice DID boy with a big, strong masochistic fragment who likes the fact that you need to feel in control. <3 Finding someone on my wavelength helped me steady out, personally. If I can do the same for others, it might be rather fun. It's an interesting challenge, I suppose.

Aecy wrote:I know exactly what you mean, but we would always get hurt when I came out. ~Snorts~ Defending ourselves brought more pain, so of course I became the "demon." I did cause problems; I'll give them that, but you're right. We're very honest, and I don't think that society appreciates that as much as it might. I don't know about you, but that's one of the chief factors I appreciate in a person. I also know what you mean about who does what; I don't know about you, but we tended to take the crap for the others a helluvalot before we started learning to face our own crap..

UGH tell me about it! I get blamed for a lot but sometimes it feels like others take credit for the things I actually do, I can't stand that, I want some recognition hah. Maybe if she payed more attention to me and my needs she wouldn't get herself in trouble for trying to blame it all on something else. For example, I was around when she first started being abused by boyfriends and I have lots of issues with men and infidelity. When I defend her, she blames it on her own insecurities (which she has but come on, walk it off already!). If she would listen to me, she wouldn't get her ass involved with these jackasses.

Aecy wrote:I understand that now, but at the time, all I wanted was to make her and everything and everyone she cared about suffer.

I understand you here as well. I guess to be hidden might be her way of dealing with others, but if she just let me do my thing she'd be a lot better off. She's too weak to handle people and Saimi is too whiny and depressed to even get out of bed sometimes it's like all the weak ones around me expect to see me only when they don't want to do the dirty work.

Aecy wrote:Also, eh. I'm not after anything specific, but If you all are like me, you want to talk to someone who speaks your language.

Hah that's exactly what I want! I have no agenda other than to have my voice heard and hear others that understand.

Aecy wrote:Especially if you can find a nice DID boy with a big, strong masochistic fragment who likes the fact that you need to feel in control.

Hahah you are speaking the language of Katie here now, she likes guys like that. Her man now I believe is that way but he doesn't admit having another personality even though I see it clearly. I still have strong feelings about her relationships no matter who they are, but she's mostly happy so I guess it's fine... *Rolls eyes*

Thank you Malice for responding to me. You seem on the same page as me and I think you and I could get along quite well . Feel free to PM me if you ever want to vent or just chat .