Not Sure What To Do

Hi Everyone
My mum keeps asking me why I am always zoning out(dissociating) its just she told the counselor that I went to that told me that I have DID that they are wrong that I'm just acting this way for attention the counselor at the time had been treating me for four years of depression and when my other personalities started to talk to him he listened to them he also talked with me about things. When ever I try to tell my mum its from having DID she just goes you need to stop saying that how do I get her to understand that I'm not dissociating to anger her?
She sees it all as an act telling me if I did not spend all my time reading detective books and poetry and living inside of my head then I wouldn't be trying to blame everything on some kind of mental condition that is not real. I have tried everything I can think of short of yelling at her to get her to understand I even printed some things out to show her but she tells me to just grow up.
She also tells me I should be more like my older brother that he doesn't zone out or live inside of his head or talk to himself. I am just not sure what to do. I have tried everything I could think of including having my other personalities speak to my mum but she just told me to stop being over dramatic that she never should have let me take drama classes in school. That I need to stop living in my head.
Yes I know I'm ranting but I don't know what else to do she has been on my case no stop for the last two weeks I figured if I ignored her she would stop that didn't help at all she just yelled even more. Sorry for ranting so much I just don't know what to do.
Last time she was on my case this much about things I dissociated for three days and found a new personality when I came foward again. Any advice will be great for I'm just ready to yell at my mum though I know yelling probably wont help. Again sorry for ranting this much. Any advice will be great.
Heidi(the core personality)

Can you try to make her listen to your T? Meaning, ask your T to tell her and to make her undersstand. Yelling won't help.

Wow, she's mean Maybe I should wait to move past my initial reaction, but I won't.

If she won't support you, it's none of her business. You tried to give her a (very real) explanation, and did your best to make her understand, but she didn't accept that explanation. So tell her to back off.

I know it totally sucks, but you've already done everything you can. If she's that adamant about it being an excuse, then I don't think she's ever going to be convinced otherwise. Constantly having to defend your diagnosis isn't going to help you. As a matter of fact, it will hurt you. So, tell her you're done trying to convince her, and that you won't be having this argument anymore. The next time she starts, (calmly) remind her that you won't be having this discussion again. If she continues, walk out of the room or something. Hopefully, she's not like my mom, who will follow you Anyway, get what I mean? Avoid that conversation. Leave the house and don't talk to her for a bit or something, so she'll (hopefully) get the idea. Maybe she'll learn not to bring it up again. Avoiding a screaming match would probably be ideal...

Sorry, I don't know your age, about how old are you? (The way you should solve this depends a lot on your age)
But, as canolime suggested, try to avoid any real fight, confrontation. Even if she's angry, try to stay calm. Try to talk with your counselor as well, make him show her that he's not that ingenuous to fall for an acting trick, I mean, tell him to convince your mom that this thting is real, that if you were acting, he would be able to see through. Sorry if it's difficult to understand, my mind is like that ^-^

I am sorry.

Many people or at least what I have seen in the observation of people have almost an inability to understand what they call "craziness" in others. You can not make her see what she chooses not to see. However if your a minor then it makes it even more of an issue. Accept yourself and don't try to make her see its hard but it is the way it is sometimes. Out of my entire immediate family only 2 know and 1 other knows partially. The rest just think I am "weird" and gave up on the advice years ago. However I am not sure how I would have been able to do that as a minor so my heart really goes out to you. See if you can talk to your alts like have a meeting if you can or just say it out loud and hopefully some will hear that you need to be protected around this person and need to be present as much as possible around her.

It may help and may not. We can not change others but our change forces change in those around us. In the least here you will find acceptance.

Lolo

I'm 29 years old and I live with my mum because she has health problems I have not been to my counselor since June for he felt that I could try to see if I could handle things on my own but he told me to call him if anything changes with how I lost my job and in July I have not called him because right now I have no insurance right now I'm looking for a new counselor that wont charge me.
I mostly stay in my room so I can avoid my mum which just annoys her more because she tells me I spend too much time in my room. I stay in my room to avoid her and so I can work on my stories and poetry with out her constantly on my case. Heidi(The Core Personality)

I see that is hard. I think your alts can help you. I am much older so my protectors are pretty intuitive about people so it takes little for the choice to be made who is up front for anyone person all the time.

Maybe you all can make a choice like that with your mom?

Lolo

I've been thinking all day long about this (just now the night fell where I live, I first read it in the morning) and I've realised something... I don't know your mother, so I'm not sure if what I'm about to say makes sense, so if I am too wrong, please tell me.
I still have a question, how long have you been aware of your DID? And, how long has she known?

I've realised that she probably tells you that things, and refuses to accept your disorded for one simple reason... If it's your mom, she must love you, right? I don't think she is trying to bother you or ignoring you. I believe that almost every single people that is not affected by DID sees it as a really serious mental problem, just, what people would call "crazyness" (as lolointerrupted said) but I don't believe it being just because of "not understanding it in other people".
Here is my point: For a (good) mother, there is nothing worse than seeing a son/daughter unhappy or with some serious problem. DID is considered a VERY serious problem (by her). You having DID is one of the worst things that could happen (again, that's what she must believe). Therefore, if there's another explanation that makes things less bad, that answer is easier (for her) to accept. If there's an easy answer that keeps her from accepting such bad things, she will try to believe that one. Therefore, she is in denial, and will reject any answer related to DID. (Denial isn't only common in the person who suffers DID, but also in the people around, especially the ones who love you).

That's what I think, she just tries to avoid the difficult answer, and is in denial of your problem. Probably, with time (and some doctor's confirmation) will accept it. Perhaps it would be best for her to start therapy herself, as well, or go from time to time to therapy together. I hope you can find a new therapist or solve your problems with insurance, I know how bad it is (been a year uncovered, so far, and even without cronical problems, still sucks...)


Just tell me what you think about my possible explanation

Secret wrote:For a (good) mother, there is nothing worse than seeing a son/daughter unhappy or with some serious problem. DID is considered a VERY serious problem (by her). You having DID is one of the worst things that could happen (again, that's what she must believe). Therefore, if there's another explanation that makes things less bad, that answer is easier (for her) to accept. If there's an easy answer that keeps her from accepting such bad things, she will try to believe that one. Therefore, she is in denial, and will reject any answer related to DID. (Denial isn't only common in the person who suffers DID, but also in the people around, especially the ones who love you).

That's a good point...

An excuse for what and why? Dissociating? Because dissociating is so fun and something you totally want to do right?

Oh it's such a sinful pleasure that you have to make an excuse for, like being lazy! Yeah!

Yeah right...

Sorry for the sarcasm... it's directed at her, not you. She just sounds to me like a dried up anti-intellectual woman who simply will not be pleased.

Sorry... I'm just... rrrrrgh. I feel your pain...