Need a bit of help

Wondering if you guys have rules, alternatives, or some kind of set protocols that you guys follow with in your system when there is a need to let off some steam in the form of pain? I've been informed that I'm not supposed to go to where others hurt the body, I'm also not supposed to harm the body myself (ppffttt) , and I'm not to deactivate the body. Here is my question: what in the world am I to do to release some pain, make some pain? I'm at the point of shaking. I asked this at the si place but there is no one there and I'm afraid I really need an answer or to do something soon. When they wrote this down, they weren't thinking about alternatives about how I'm about to rocket out of this body.

Dolci

What about snapping a rubber band against your wrist? Only works a tiny bit for me, but if I don't want to cut and I'm desperate, I do that. Do you think exercising might take the edge off of it? Using up some energy can make it better, sometimes.

Is this a new rule?

I don't do this very severely so I don't know if this is relevant, but I find the best way to resist is just to make sure both hands are always busy. I recently took up a new hobby (papercrafting) which helps me stay focused and both hands occupied. That wasn't why I started it but it's been a very welcome bonus. You can try googling that maybe.

canolime wrote:What about snapping a rubber band against your wrist? Only works a tiny bit for me, but if I don't want to cut and I'm desperate, I do that. Do you think exercising might take the edge off of it? Using up some energy can make it better, sometimes.
Is this a new rule?

Rubber Band? I've had one of those hair elastics on my wrist all evening trying that. I've graduated to hitting myself on the head but I still haven't done anything yet but I think this rule that I didn't even make or agree to has been proven to be bogus.

Thanks skink, didn't see that until I had done that other post.

Have any ice? Some people squeeze ice really hard... that causes pain. Or try slapping a table?

Please don't hit your head. Dig your nails into your skin or something, if you have to. Hitting your head can really do some damage.

thanks for answering. i really tried. too much pain. rules are too hard . too much. sorry

I understand. You don't have to apologize It's impossible to just suddenly quit. Members in the cutting forum will tell you the same thing. Do try your best not to do any harm, but if you can't avoid it, it's not the end of the world.

the girl has experience with this.

Hello this is Bright eyes as Shirley calls me.

if you haven't been to BUS bodies under seige it's a really good site.
http://buslist.org/phpBB/index.php

the before and after section has some great questions to answer to help figure out the triggers or what you are looking for most when you cut.

sometimes I would need some distance. if it's distance and inner-quiet you need try something like drawing or writing, like one said something with your hands, but something you get absorbed in. I can lose all thoughts into candle making but if i'm urgy it's not a safe thing to be doing. it depends on the situation.

if it's energy or a lot of emotion you need directed try running, or walking or something. or tapping out rhythms with music helps me.

if it's because i'm ashamed for messing up, or doing something wrong, and to avoid the anger from the others, I often curl up and tell myself I am worth respecting. no one should yell at me. and I tell myself I forgive myself and I get somewhere I feel safe and drift off to sleep. Sometimes I tell myself some things were just a dream if i'm too embarrassed to face them at the moment. Then I deal with Shirley about what happened when I can handle it better.

and I know all about spontaneous rules like that... it's tough. but over time we have worked to make them reasonable or even abolished some.

--Bright eyes/antelope

My twin would write, sleep (he needed sleeping pills because he could not do it himself), shut out light, spend most of his time alone. Those are the things I saw when he was cutting himself. As to whatever else he did, I have not asked. He would even walk alot, possibly trying to busy his mind with exercise or what else. He even stood outside at night for some reason. It could have cleared his head a bit.
When he did nothing, he was extremely angry. That in turn led to cutting again.