*maybe a trigger?! dunno* How do I stop it happening?

Hey Hey

Just wanting some advice really. Every time someone mentions abuse or attacks, or it comes on TV etc, Mara ‘faints’. Not so groovy. Normally I'm around anyway, and I switch out so no-one really notices (Im the only one who can mimic her). I just need to know what we can do to stop it happening. What if I'm not around? She’s out cold at the moment because a colleague told a joke which was sooooooo not funny and so inappropriate that Josh wanted to smack him in the face.

On top of that, Im now having flashbacks, and so it's kinda a mess in here which we can't afford as we're at work.

It’s so frustrating for her, because now she’ll have missed a few hours of her working day, which is cool and all, but she’s had some really important meetings, and although we have detailed notes for each other I know she’ll be really annoyed about missing it.

Oh the life and trials of a multiple.

By the way – you guys (and girls) are awesome

- Kerry

Poor Mara. Those triggers must be more than she can handle. I wonder if the solution would be in the realm of de-sensitizing her. And/or giving her another response, like setting a boundary and going to a safe place? What does she say about it?

It takes a while to desensitize a person(s) to abuse triggers, and the time between now and then you all can't really afford for that to happen in front of people. I don't remember how many you all have in your system, but if there are enough of you, how about making a rule that someone else is ALWAYS nearby when Mara is out, especially when she is at work? None of us faint, but that's the first thing we would agree upon doing if we were in that situation.

-Leigh

My (only) kind of self-confidence: "knowing that someone will wing it..."
It does help to know that.