Has anyone ever met someone who doesn't believe in DID?

I wonder how people would react if instead of telling them you have it if you maybe said, "hey, watch it... I know someone with DID, and it's for real. I've known him for a long time." This is obviously true, btw since you know yourself lol. It might open up the conversation, make them consider more carefully who hears what they are saying, and then possibly convert some skeptics to believers. It doesn't help with some of the movies and posers out there who ruin it for the true survivors, but you can be part of turning around those misconceptions. Just a thought.

Around here in the Bible Belt at least the section I live in the popular opinion is that it's demons and just casting them out will do the trick. Trust me it doesn't work. I'm more messed up than I was before lol.

gentlebutch wrote:Around here in the Bible Belt at least the section I live in the popular opinion is that it's demons and just casting them out will do the trick. Trust me it doesn't work. I'm more messed up than I was before lol.

Yep. In fact the "exorcism" only resulted in a couple new system members for me. So there goes that theory.

John21 wrote:i've been sitting in the office and heard people going "did you hear this thing in the news about some guy who has multiple personalities" or something, and then they just start talking about how its all made up, and its in our heads, and they dont even ######6 know they are insulting me right there next to me...and theres nothing you can do about it, because if you defend yourself you open yourself up to attack and it is NOT defending at all...

i hate people that do this to us.

Well, you know me, can't keep my mouth shut. I've gone out of my way to argue with people on DID before, including the world's worst psychology teacher.

Mr. Bates wrote:I don't really talk to anyone about DID except on this forum, so never ran into this issue.

I am going to do this also. My mom, sis, the girls and the boys don't even allow a single word mentioned. I can't stand it.

I do have a blessing: I have 3 strong women who stand next to me, and want and are soooo happy "me".

Ro- she is tough and may have a gender disorder.

And some of the best advice I have ever got was from Bates.

My Spouse says he has always known. We been married 23 years.

I am just ticked I can't talk to my mother or my sister. They just dont get it and dont want too.

luv,
red

Oh yeah, I hope this finds everyone happy and healthy.

I never believed it was all made up. I saw Cybil when I was little and it made perfect sense to me. I have always been a bit of a psychology hound. I don't relate emotionally so I have to use logic and knowledge of psychology. Anyway, I recently met a multiple for real, for the first time, which is why I am on here checking it out today. Having always believed it was possible but that some people do try to fake it to get out of trouble, it was still hard to believe what I was seeing and hearing when she started switching. She warned me and I believed her but it was very disconcerting.
I have always been annoyed with peoples' tendency to try to box up everyone into easy categories. I was always called "a hippy" and then when I would get mad, people would say "I thought hippies were all peace and love" and it just infuriated me to be put into such a confining box of expectation. Now multiply that many times over and man it gets hard to juggle. I mean, I try not to put people in boxes but I am used to at least having one complex person at a time, not several. It so confusing and hard to grasp even if you do believe its real. I'm sure its even more so for the person with multiples but I am just trying to give outside perspective here.
Now add to the fact that the longer you know anyone the more you form expectations of them and identify them (this is why I find it hard to stay around people I knew since I was a kid for long even though we care about each other greatly). People don't want you to change or be different than the idea they have because it forces them to change their carefully constructed concept of who you are and how that relates to them (and it does, especially when it's family).
Finally, if you have DID, you had trauma at an early age that triggered you to disassociate. Your mother could feel guilty, your sister could want to forget similar traumas. When my Mom found out I had been spanked regularly, she freaked out and that is relatively mild in my opinion to anything that would really be considered trauma. I quickly decided she was not the person to discuss other abuse with because it just made her feel like she should have known and stopped it.
Try not to take it to heart. I'm sure it is not that they don't care. It's just a bit overwhelming to even a stranger that never doubted DID existed.