[I posted this on another site originally, but wanted to ask here too because you folks have consistently had awesome input and ideas.]
So one of the problems we have continually is that parts (particularly young ones) get pretty upset when we have to return to the parents’ house — a lot of bad stuff occurred there and we remain at risk of more occurring whenever we are there, which is a good chunk of every year (we have no other option or choice in this having to return, at least not now; in the future maybe). Basically we have heavy negative association with that house - I can’t tell if it or the parents themselves are triggering, but it’s one of them, and it’s hard.
The two things we’ve done so far to make things feel ‘safer’ is have lots of stuffed animals around (especially ones that specific younger parts picked out/bought/identify as theirs; I - Wolf - have my own separate large collection so when needed I can pass off the young ones’ plushies as being mine), and make a blanket fort (this makes the upset parts feel safer for some reason... whatever works I guess?) A idea our current therapist gave recently was to do coloring with the young parts and put those colorings up on the walls, so we’re gonna do that too. (They’re mandalas so I can pass them off as decorative if the parents ask about them.)
Was just wondering what other people have done to make a pretty much inescapable scary environment feel somewhat safer while we’re stuck there. (This ask is somewhat informed by the fact we continue to have nightmares, and that those get worse at the parents’ house. We’re starting a new medication for the nightmares tho so maybe that will resolve them. Fingers are crossed really hard.)
- Wolf