Alters generally really quiet unless I interact with them?

Hi all! Evan and Lilly here.

So, first off, Lilly says "How are you?"

Second, it's been incredibly quiet for weeks now. On occasion someone will pop in to speak with me, but other than that, unless I purposefully go in to get their attention, it's been so quiet.

Is there any way to kind of form a better communication with everyone? I feel like we're all so "spread out" it's hard to get most of us together, if that makes sense at all. And is it common to have so much quiet for so long? I feel like it's been forever. It's not like, "supposed" to be a lot of talking all the time? It can be very quiet for some people? I only have a few that come close to the front often. I guess I'm really doubting again, I try so hard not to, but not being able to talk to my therapist or psych about it is making it more difficult I suppose.

Well thank you guys, this forum has been really helpful in figuring things out and even getting reassurance, and learning new information. Thanks so much <3

we are mainly switching between 2 parts. the others say something every now and then, but its really not like constant chatting at all. there can be weeks without hearing from certain parts. sometimes when life is stressful some of us will withdraw, it is absolutely normal. I actually don't think that it would be so great to hear everyone all the time. sure way to go crazy. its enough to hear each other when it is needed. but that is a personal opinion.
we do roll calls pretty regularly to check in with everyone.

birdsong87 wrote:we are mainly switching between 2 parts. the others say something every now and then, but its really not like constant chatting at all. there can be weeks without hearing from certain parts. sometimes when life is stressful some of us will withdraw, it is absolutely normal. I actually don't think that it would be so great to hear everyone all the time. sure way to go crazy. its enough to hear each other when it is needed. but that is a personal opinion.
we do roll calls pretty regularly to check in with everyone.

Thank you for this, it's good to know. I can't imagine having constant talking honestly, I've had a part talking very often and even just the one was getting to me. It'd probably be like constantly being in a room full of people. Thank you again <3

Hi ! LuceyTate,

It normal for parts to go within and relaxe. I learned that just because I was not aware of things that was happening within did not mean that I was alone or that my reality was based on outside facts. Learning to trust and allowing them to emerge on their time. Allowed me to heal and grow froom within.

as for as doubting your self that comes knocking every time I try to make myself a "unicorn" like the reast of the world. I came here because I was healling but had no other souce of knowledge from thoae around me. We do not have a single horn but many.

so come here to remember our truth is not like singletons. we have our main grooup of friends within us.