When others know more than you

Hello guys and girls,

I would like to share something nice with you, and after that I am very interested in your own stories of surprising "wtf"-moments like that, if you want to share them too

It is actually kind of funny, how I searched and searched for answers.. about having DID/Dissociations/or not/or whatever...
and then suddenly my wife tells me something out of nowhere.

During a random talk on a walk with my dog, I got a littlebit dizzy, and an inner voice said something, which I didn't understand.
My wife suddenly asked me "who of you wants to add something?".
I was like "what? how do you know about it???"
Then she told me, that I have 3 personalities, that she have been knowing all of them since 7 years, and even that we talked about it already several times.

She said, that I have only forgotten this, and also forgotten our talks, every single time so far.
She added, that by now she already notices when I switch, or when someone inside of me wants to say or do something.
And that she loves all 3 of us, and always will.

I feel so overwhelmed right now.. but definitely positively, cause her positive and nice behavior towards me.. and obviously also towards the other parts.. is just so beautiful.



Now that I told this experience, I am really interested in your own ones, if you had "strange/surprising" talks too, where you just thought "what "

I don't think others know more than me but I wouldn't be shocked if they did. Practically nothing could surprise me now with having this type of psyche.

Patrick

Sarandipity wrote:I don't think others know more than me but I wouldn't be shocked if they did. Practically nothing could surprise me now with having this type of psyche.

Patrick

I understand, you already experienced and learned too much about yourselve,
to have this kind of "wow what happens here -effect"

Although a littlebit offtopic, may I ask how long you have been dealing with DID, or better said, how long you have known it?

Henrik wrote:

Sarandipity wrote:I don't think others know more than me but I wouldn't be shocked if they did. Practically nothing could surprise me now with having this type of psyche.

Patrick

I understand, you already experienced and learned too much about yourselve,
to have this kind of "wow what happens here -effect"

Although a littlebit offtopic, may I ask how long you have been dealing with DID, or better said, how long you have known it?

Have known since I had psychotherapy from 2006 to 2009. I started off in group psychotherapy because I had been diagnosed with many disorders but could live ok without medication so my psychiatrist at the time thought psychotherapy would benefit me.

The group noticed I was different at different sessions. It was 3 day per week therapy. They got very angry that I was unable to remember a previous session. When they shouted at me it was very distressing because I really did not know what they were talking about.

Then I had 1-1 psychotherapy. The therapy was through the NHS but that therapist also worked for the Priory, a well known private clinic. She was very good. A couple of alters spoke to her. This caused the twins to say to her they didn't want any of that put on our notes and she respected that so generally she was trusted by me as an overall person. She asked what we wanted from therapy. At the time all that was wanted was to align life stuff, find compromise so that's what she did with us. We'd say a problem eg "we have far too many clothes" and then she'd discuss with parts about how to resolve that.

Just opening up communication in that environment with a therapist who we felt "didn't want to play with our brain" really helped alot. When therapy ended we kept up communication in a book. We worked on each life aspect at a time, work and religion and core values. Where we couldn't agree we compromised. We didn't get much trauma memory processed back then though.

We had a crisis recently which brought up alot of new trauma stuff, stuff we didn't all know. So we're aiming more at trauma therapy this time but it'd probably need to be s therapist who can deal with parts like our last therapist could.

So I've knowingly been dealing with this for about 10 years but still occasionally have lived oblivious to it in that time.

@Sarandipity
The reaction of the group doesn't sound very nice, to say the least
Can't really understand how people who have their own psychic problems,
sometimes are still so intolerant towards people with other problems than them.
Sad.

But it's nice to hear about your last therapist
She seems to have done an amazing job.
Hope you find a trauma-therapist who is as good as her!

Atm I am trying it the other way around; starting with a trauma-psychologist,
who doesn't know much about DID, except for being able to diagnose it.
But at least she seems to understand and accept.. and gets accepted by all my parts.
Which is already really valuable.

10 years.. ah okay, already expected something around that amount of years,
your posts don't seem like you just noticed a few months ago.

I've seen this on occasion with Sunflower. I think as an SO it's easier to see from the outside than inside. Insiders may not even remember that they forgot.

I recall when SF asked me about telling my mom about DID, she got worked up in a panicked mess, checked out, then I conferred with Meg on what went wrong and how to recalibrate the conversation. Then SF started over with a memory and emotional wipe. This happened twice and the third time the conversation was one she could handle. This was over about 15 minutes total.

There have also been things disclosed to me by insiders that have been deemed to overwhelming for SF to deal with. So there were things that Meg, other insiders, their T, and I knew that we couldn't yet share with SF.

On the bright side, it has made gifts easier. Meg will block SF and tell me what she really wants for her birthday, etc.

Glad to hear you have a supportive SO! A supportive SO and a good T make a good team in my opinion.