stopping aggressive alters from taking over???

Hi

Sioux here, we've had a difficult weekend. It seems an older quite aggressive alter was triggered recently they came out angry and aggressive, saw Daisy's pic out that she'd been painting and ripped it up shouting did she want people to start calling us r****d again as the pic looked like it was painted by a 3yr old! (their words not mine) Daisy was in tears. The other alter (who seems to have posted on another post as B) spent all weekend drinking (alcohol) and wouldn't let anyone else out.

Myself and Kit tried to communicate with them and show we know we're a system now and we all voted to stay on this forum because it had helped us loads. B didn't care about democracy or being outvoted they stayed up fronting blocking everyone who tried to front.

Anyway Kit tried a trick she used to do when Maddie didn't know she existed, she managed to influence B's thoughts to set the alarm to get out (with the dog) before the kids started coming out (its half term and B hates kids). B who hasn't been out for years, didn't know the alarm had been set with Star Trek theme which particularly triggers Kit to wake up in the body the next day when it does go off. She was then able to block B and bring me forward so by Wednesday we were finally back in control!

My question is how do we stop them staying up front if they manage to get to the front again and refuse to co-operate? I don't know if Kit's alarm trick will work again and we have a busy month with appointments in March, so we don't want them taking over and refusing to let anyone else out to attend appointments?

Sioux

I don't know about not allowing them out. That seems counter productive. It could make them worse. Talking to them and finding them a healthy outlet seems like a better idea. Any kid drawings are kept in a box because it was triggering for other parts in this system in a similar way to yours. I don't know if it still is but it used to be so drawing, couloring book stuff is in a box under blankets. Colouring isn't so bad it's mostly the drawing that was not liked.

It sounds like they need a different outlet to other parts.

Also I just realized your panic over the Corona virus could have triggered them out. Alot of people would consider your overall reaction to it to be over the top and excessive.

These parts sound like the parts of me who react angrily to anxiety. I didn't want to go swimming alone. I felt really anxious. Then the thought came in "what am I, some kind of baby who can't go swimming alone" Then Paul took over so we did errands and went swimming. The pain part wanted swimming.

So these angry parts could have been triggered by you overall response to the Corona virus and become resentful of all the pleasant or child or anxious parts. They got triggered out, destroyed stuff, drunk and basically showed their annoyances at other parts for being "childish"

Could be that. My opinion, you need these parts. They seem scary but you need them. They are the parts that say "f this, I'm not being agoraphobic or anxious. I'm going to live my life normally" These are the parts that make you go eat Chinese food when you're worried about a Chinese virus and then when you live they say "I told you that you're being a stupid child" Without me having parts like this I'd be agoraphobic and hypochondriac. Sometimes I'm too much the reverse, I don't see a doctor when I should, but I do get out and do stuff because of them.

That's why you need to embrace them. Let's face it if you had energy, less fear but are stuck in a house then you're gonna get drunk, tare stuff up and complain that this is all childish.

If you was one whole anxious person who responded solely with anxiety then staying in and hiding would be "ok" and you'd have to deal with it to get over it. You don't have to deal with it because you have parts who see it differently. So instead of them being confined to the house with you, let them live.

Beth decided to not go out about 8 years ago. She hasn't except for a couple of times by accident. That hasn't stopped any other part going out. I got booted out the body because I felt nervous of going swimming alone. The only way I function as an overall person is because of parts.

I say embrace them and let them live but confining them to a house is a waste.