Compartmentalising life?

That sounds like good cooperation and respectful to your others. When I said I thought is was normal I ment it in the way that you where not concious of it. I also think that you can to things that you like thats not "bothering or hurting" the others. It can be hard having to be the one caring on with normal life if its not "yours".

Allcoulors wrote:That sounds like good cooperation and respectful to your others. When I said I thought is was normal I ment it in the way that you where not concious of it. I also think that you can to things that you like thats not "bothering or hurting" the others. It can be hard having to be the one caring on with normal life if its not "yours".

Yes, there isn't anything I can think of that's legal and safe that I like doing - except listening to live bands. Ok I could do that eventually.

I'm actually finding it "ok" They have literally everything in walking distance, the house is alright and I got job I can do. I can't do the job they were doing, I kept contemplating it, I can imagine doing it but it's a skilled job so I opted against it. I checked, if in a year they are back and want to get back into it then it won't be too hard I checked with potential employers. So I've been signed off sick for months and got another job now which I start next week so that's good.

The children are great. The eldest has left home and the younger ones are really sensible so that's not too much of a worry. Apparently they saw parenting as a job of "bringing up healthy individuals who can thrive in life" so they can tidy up, cook and can take responsibility for their accedmic life which going by the "they did really well today" is working out. One of them loves cooking so he cooks once a week. They don't like processed food but I can cook some stuff so that's ok. The youngest is behind in school though although his behaviour is good apparently so I'm spending time helping him learn and that's going ok.

I think I got this lol. The job I got rid of, the bf I got rid of (it seems, he said he had enough so that's simple). The support group I can easily sit in without messing up like Paul nearly did. I just gotta deal with the psychiatrist side but I already decided how to deal with that - no pressure on myself. I'm gonna give him one chance, nobody has met this new one yet which makes it easier because I won't have messages of pre judgement.

Then I'll just slowly plod through life till I feel 100% comfortable. I am pretty certain others are not coming back, they're too upset, until there's a safe environment of therapy for them. So I'm basically relaxing, enjoying what's already here and just living my life. Which is mine as much as there's.

Thanks,

No-one