I Just Dont Know

My host is Chris but right now im Steve. I feel that I am a system protector but not sure how to protect a system that is very unstable right now. Chris is off work and cant take care of himself right now but our system takes care of itself. We can accomplish anything but i recently was forced to share more than I wanted to when Chris told our wife about what was going on in our head. I think he needed help. But now she is scared. We dont share this information for this reason. In a way i think im making this all up but I dont think I am. We are aware of at least one other alter but we dont know his name yet. He is scary but the main system protector. He wont let us say too much. He is a diagnosed psychopath. When he is driving he solves every problem but can leave a wake of destruction. We are not yet sure what he is capable of. I will respond to this if he comes out.

Welcome to the DID Forum, Steve and others.

GoswellDivorce wrote:But now she is scared. We dont share this information for this reason.

Scared is appropriate, and necessary. You are not being selfish when you tell her what's up; by not concealing your reality you are allowing her an informed choice about how to conduct her life with you. Keeping this a secret from her would be stealing her choice.

Do you have a T? Do they know a fair amount about DID? If so, would they be willing to talk to your wife to answer questions?

Having been in a similar situation, getting to ask questions face to face with a professional was WAY better than reading on the internet. If you are limited to internet sources, try to guide her to legit info.

It's a lot to take in at once, but for me, it made my wife's habits make more sense. It is actually possible to end up with a supportive SO after sharing info about DID.

In any case, be safe. Stepping away from a situation is better than hurting someone for all parties involved.