Being ganged-up on plus feelings of extreme sadness

Hello,

I don't know why but I keep getting terrible feelings of "doom". I don't know how to describe it other than feeling very depressed. I don't know why those feelings hit me, but when they hit, they hit hard. Like a few minutes ago, I was happy and laughing.........now I feel terrible. I also feel incredibly lonely.....It's almost like what Blue describes feeling like, but I'm not 100% sure if the feeling is coming from her..................or if one of the ones that "Hate" me are doing it. I know there is a really bad one that I believe could be the destroyer. I don't know for sure, but the "thoughts" they put in my mind are very troubling.

I don't know what to do. If the feelings are coming from Blue, how do I help her? She's getting a little better at talking to us, but still she is leery about letting us get close to her. She is closer to Mary than any of us, but then even Mary said she don't know a lot about her. I believe Blue holds A LOT of hurt. She took the most of it, I believe. She is scared of getting hurt again.

And then if it is the one, I think is the "destroyer", how do I deal with them? I don't know if I can face them right now, being that there are at least 6 others that are tormenting me now. They are mimicking the bullies. And then there's David who is messing with me yet again......... I have so much going on. My protectors are on full alert. I just don't know what to do......It's very hard to talk to them 1 on 1 because they mess with me in a group. Except for David, he normally comes alone.......but then he is very hard to talk to......... I don't know what to do. It is really bad when they are ganging up on me. I had a horrible dream last night. I know for a fact that it was them, even though it was dark and I couldn't see them. I know they were the ones that attacked me, mainly by their laughs. It is so not cool that I can feel realistic pain in my dreams, because it was beyond terrible.

I know all of their names now, except for the "destroyer" one. I just don't know what to do. How I reached the others before IS NOT WORKING. I need a new strategy or something.

Their names are: Bruiser, Punisher, Mystique, Yondu, Giovanni, David, and then there's the "Unknown destroyer one". However, I may have reached their Leader. His name is Scar. If Scar isn't faking, which he could be........(David lied to me already).....and is starting to like me, then maybe it will be easier reaching the others. If he is faking for some reason, then IT'S REALLY BAD. I have no clue what to do then.


Any ideas? Like I said:

How I reached the others before IS NOT WORKING.


Thank you!

You might try writing a sympathetic note to "whoever if feeling down" stating that you care.

This all takes time. One of the hardest things for me helping Sunflower was knowing when to grit my teeth, stay silent, and wait. Wind and water wear away stone over time. Persistent caring, appreciation, and safety brought most of my wife's insiders to the point of at least talking, though I have been yelled at and belittled in the process. I think we are even making progress with B.

I'm reading between the lines, but are you handling this okay? Are you being overwhelmed? It's not a bad thing to step back and take a breather. You can't help them if you don't take care of yourself also.

SOHank wrote:You might try writing a sympathetic note to "whoever if feeling down" stating that you care.

This all takes time. One of the hardest things for me helping Sunflower was knowing when to grit my teeth, stay silent, and wait. Wind and water wear away stone over time. Persistent caring, appreciation, and safety brought most of my wife's insiders to the point of at least talking, though I have been yelled at and belittled in the process. I think we are even making progress with B.

I'm reading between the lines, but are you handling this okay? Are you being overwhelmed? It's not a bad thing to step back and take a breather. You can't help them if you don't take care of yourself also.

Hello, Thank you for your response! The note idea is a good one for me to try. Thank you!

I am feeling kinda overwhelmed, but they are the ones that are approaching me. They're doing so mainly in a group and well they aren't very friendly. A lot of them are acting like bullies. Not sure how to take a step back from that group. If I could talk to them 1 on 1, I might be able to reach them better than in a group, but I don't know how.

Unless, I'm able to become friends with Scar, their leader, then maybe........(I've been trying to. I am able to talk to him alone.....without the group......lately. He demands to know why I'm being so nice to him. I like him, despite how he acts, he just either doesn't like me or he's being stubborn to admit it. I figured out 3 of the songs he likes and added them to our playlist. He likes Bat Country and Afterlife by Avenged Sevenfold, and Smooth Criminal by Alien Ant Farm. He says he can't understand why I did that.

You are doing so good with them so far! Music has helped us a lot to. (And A7F is one of my faves esp. Shepard of Fire.)

In your shoes, I would try to talk to Scar. Explain that things used to be bad, but you are changing them. Explain that now that you know about them, you want to help. I would then ask for Scars help and negotiate a deal. Explain how it is too much to deal with everyone in a group and ask for assistance in helping you help them in a smaller setting. Perhaps one on one. Perhaps you one of them + Scar. Whatever you and they feel comfortable with.

Sunflower’s T was able to set up a meeting room, which is neutral territory if that is important to them. Don’t know quite the details of how that was done…

Remember, this is a marathon, not a sprint. You’re rocking it!

SOHank wrote:You are doing so good with them so far! Music has helped us a lot to. (And A7F is one of my faves esp. Shepard of Fire.)

In your shoes, I would try to talk to Scar. Explain that things used to be bad, but you are changing them. Explain that now that you know about them, you want to help. I would then ask for Scars help and negotiate a deal. Explain how it is too much to deal with everyone in a group and ask for assistance in helping you help them in a smaller setting. Perhaps one on one. Perhaps you one of them + Scar. Whatever you and they feel comfortable with.

Sunflower’s T was able to set up a meeting room, which is neutral territory if that is important to them. Don’t know quite the details of how that was done…

Remember, this is a marathon, not a sprint. You’re rocking it!

Hello, Thank you so much for your advice! I greatly appreciate it!