Finding Therapist

How have some of you found a great therapist? Is there anyone here that has found a therapist in Fort Worth texas that has worked with DID? also how does everyone afford to see their therapist?

Looking into trying to get me help. I have a persecuter alter who is tormenting a child alter to the point that I need to try to get help.

Thank you

hey there, welcome to the forum.
three is a thread about how to find a DID T over here
https://www.psychforums.com/dissociative-identity/topic199914.html
I hope that some of it is helpful.
This forum has a very supportive community too, so if you feel like you just want to talk to someone, just post here.

Hi Pixiewonderer,

Welcome to the forum!

We have a pretty neat T and really like her. She cares about us but has good boundaries (because not to is scary). She's got good skills but is willing to try different stuff if it looks like that's going to work better. And she doesn't freak out about the bad stuff we tell her or get mad when someone inside hates her for a while. Most important she's good at working with ALL of us. She tells us apart and calls us by name. That's super important!

We have a job and make therapy a priority so we can pay for it. We're pretty lucky that way.

Good luck. Hope you find a good one.

Iain

Sorry about the persecutor stuff. That s*cks!

Thank you guys, I’ll definitely take a look at the link. How often do you see your therapist?

Hi! We see our T once a week; she is a trauma specialist with decades of experience in dealing with dissociation who we were lucky to find. We wish you the best in your search.

Welcome Pixiewonderer!

We see our T once a week. I googled to find an expert in dissociative disorders, and was lucky that this guy is less than 40 miles away. He has a lot of experience with DID, and I really like that nothing about it is unusual for him.

It's expensive, but my husband and I have good jobs and we can afford it. Insurance pays for maybe 1/4 of it (after the deductible), which isn't much but it's something.

Good luck with your search, and I'm sorry about what's happening with your persecutor part. Do you journal? We've learned a lot about how everyone feels by writing with different colored pens. Usually persecutors are trying to help in some way--it's just not very helpful in the present.

the Gang

I haven’t journaled. I’m the host and still at step one even though I’ve been aware for a few years now. I have a very difficult time working together because I want to believe they don’t exist, even though they do. That in itself makes me frustrated. I need to learn how to accept everyone and stop fighting but it’s so difficult. Any encouragement will help! Your responses have already helped so much.

Pixiewonderer wrote:I haven’t journaled. I’m the host and still at step one even though I’ve been aware for a few years now. I have a very difficult time working together because I want to believe they don’t exist, even though they do. That in itself makes me frustrated. I need to learn how to accept everyone and stop fighting but it’s so difficult. Any encouragement will help! Your responses have already helped so much.

I'm not sure I could have started moving toward acceptance without having a therapist for support. I didn't really become aware of the parts until I started seeing my T last June, but just seeing him a couple of times was enough for me to let one of them make herself known. He modeled acceptance of feelings for me, so when I felt an uncomfortable feeling one evening after I had seen the T, instead of pushing it away, I just observed it and commented on it in my mind, and a part talked back to me.

But it's important to pace yourself. Instead of having "accept everyone" as your immediate goal, try just communicating with the part that's closest to you, or closest to the front (every system is so different). The first ones I started interacting with were the ones more connected with my present day life whom it was easier to accept because they had been pitching in anyway with various activities.

But it is hard to share and compromise when you're used to just doing whatever you want to do.