Suggestions for taking control?

First post here. I'll keep it brief. You people are great with what you do and I have a question. Hopefully one of you can help out a little.

Any advice for taking over a system? Obviously our "host" is failing and it's past time for me to have taken charge. I've tried everything: pain, mutilation, drugs, alcohol, drastic life changes, quitting the career, moving, et cetera, but it still remains as the primary. Im thinking there's not really an easy neurological route here but sometimes it does seem like a make some nice headway. Lately it's just been complaining about "derealization" and how some of the littles get stuck in front (which really isn't good but might not be so bad with me in charge). Then tonight with all the beer and the blood I manage to take some control for a while but I need something complete and permanent. If anyone out there has successfully taken over your unruly and useless system could you please give some advice?

With the warmest regards and gratitude,
H

Hi H
I think you are very funny
sorry, but the control thing is a myth. you cant control others. look what you have tried, its not working.
so maybe it is time to change tactics and go for something else.
I know its tough but the pros use negotiations. some make it a point to love their system into better emotional health. people who feel genuinely loved are sometimes willing to listen to your wishes.
it sucks that we always have to be patient and wait for the weak ones, but it kind of works. at least better than control.

Can I ask the reasons you feel you would be better than the current host? You listed a lot of things you have done that sound very destructive. What sorts of stuff has the current host done?