*TW* Support for a Sexual Alter, Pretty Please?!

Truly_happy wrote:You know, I think I have a problem that is worse than the hypersexuality: I fixate on what a few people say and add to that the fear of what people might say. I can rationalize that my fears are unfounded and know that the thoughts of others do not define me ... yet I often cannot rest until someone outside of my system validates me.

It is just human nature. Humans are social creatures by default. Life experiences can change much, but as a root function humans seek the approval of other humans. It is an instinct that served us well in ages past, when we were few and vulnerable to the forces of nature. So it is no wonder for it to linger.

I'm lost here. What is a "sexual alter"? How can Jimmy see his "inward" body instead of his outward body? And how can his other alts see it if it is not the outward body? I have not heard/read this before.

IMAnonymous wrote:I'm lost here. What is a "sexual alter"? How can Jimmy see his "inward" body instead of his outward body? And how can his other alts see it if it is not the outward body? I have not heard/read this before.

Um, first of all, this is not a Q&A thread. I see from your first post you are a singleton who is curious about DID, but this is not the place to ask us to explain ourselves. I'll also let you know that "sexual alters" are not the type that people with DID like to talk about, so your question may come across as insensitive, but I don't expect that you knew that.

I really don't want to answer your questions, but here it goes:

Sexual alters are system members who either hide memories of sexual abuse or are hypersexual. (Although I, Stephanie, fall into both catagories.) This thread is meant to be a safe place for hypersexual alters to talk to one another. We're pretty much the Black Sheep of the DID community, so we thought it was important to have a support thread for our kind especially.

Next, I guess by "Jimmy" you mean Tiger? Well, reguardless, we're able to see ourselves via something singletons call "the mind's eye". When you read a book, do you visualize the characters? If so, we use the same mechanism. As for our inner forms ... have you seen "The Matrix"? If so, did you notice that, when people go into the virtual world, they look different from their real bodies? It's what Orpheus called "self-image", if I remember rightly. We each have an idea of what we look like, regardless of what we see in the mirror. I know I have brown hair and green eyes while the physical body does not. That's just how it is.

Hope that helps.

- Stephanie

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My hypersex friends still here? You read this? Hope!

Has good news! I has girlfriend in own system. She named Marian but I say "Mar-an" and she okay with it. ^_^ She so pretty. No, she beau'ful! Love her, love her, I. ^_^ She have weird body, too. She modest bout it in front other sysem memers, like me, but she feel comfy showing self front me. Not that she strip ... she jus do'nt hide evything with me. She trust me. Love her, love her, so.

Somehow, I has kids now? o_0 Boy and girl, but don't feel like they dad, but they call me Dad or Daddy. Weird. I always been nurturing, though, so treat them well, I do. Love them like love everyone. ^_^ No want talk bout where theys came from. TOO WEIRD! I shiver at thought. Girl named self Madison (Mad'son or Maddy I says) and boy named self Frog. 0_o Funny boy is. They love girlfriend like she they mom. ^_^ Love that! Feel like family. Oh, an kids love Mar-an's body way it is, too!

- Tiger

PS: Okay, Anon. I read you post now. Had to share good news first.

Want to remind folks what this thread for!

Is for sexual alters only, or people who have sex alters and care for them.
Is support thread. Ask for help with issues too sensitive for other threads.
No one judge you. You say what you think is right.
No one judge others in anyone's system.

Anyone off-topic get reported!

- Tiger

Truly_happy wrote:Want to remind folks what this thread for!

Is for sexual alters only, or people who have sex alters and care for them.
Is support thread. Ask for help with issues too sensitive for other threads.
No one judge you. You say what you think is right.
No one judge others in anyone's system.

Anyone off-topic get reported!

- Tiger

Wait, is okay if we give good news and tell others we doing fine, right? Feel like I owe all who offered loving advice updates so you know I much better. May been in too bad place to accept it all, but is my way to thank you now I know you helped. Love you all!!!

- Tiger