Alter of the opiset sex.

So here's my issue, my girlfriend has DID and we just found out so do I. I'm a guy but I have a alter that's female all of my girlfriends alters are of the same sex (female). A couple of my girlfriends alters are freaked out by me having a female alter and letting her be a girl (i.e. put on make up, wear woman's close ext... I didn't expect her to freak out about this because shes the one who kept suggesting that I might be split and I don't know how to handel her being freaked by my alter Amara. Any addvice?

That sucks man.
To be honest I think your girlfriends are just gonna have to get used to the idea.
Shame they haven't any dudes in system to help them understand what a burden it is to be in a body of the opposite gender and what a BIG difference dressing in your own style can make.

It's good they could be open with you about their feelings but it's their hang-up and for them to deal with. Hope they're being respectful while they work out their emotions about Amara wearing her own clothes and make-up and such.

Thank for the reply, They've gone back a forth about it. What we've come up with is that they shouldn't see Amara "transform" in front of them. So the goal now it to get Amara to a point where she could pass for a "real woman" and hope they can deal with it.

Hi, Devildog, Amara, etc. I'm Cullen.

We've never had a significant other or knowingly met another system in person, but here's what I've got for you:

First, your significant other system needs to realize that it is rare for all the members of a DID system to be the same gender, let alone all being cisgender. We've only been active in the DID community since August 2016, but your girlfriend is only the third such system we've heard of. Your system is quite normal.

Secondly, I appreciate the fact that you allow Amara to be a woman on the outside. I'm a 14-year-old boy in an adult female body so I know how important it is to feel comfortable when you come out.

Lastly, I wish Amara well as she strives to pass as a woman. I know she'll enjoy achieving that goal more than anyone else involved.

Hoping all goes well for everyone.

Truly_happy wrote:Hi, Devildog, Amara, etc. I'm Cullen.

We've never had a significant other or knowingly met another system in person, but here's what I've got for you:

First, your significant other system needs to realize that it is rare for all the members of a DID system to be the same gender, let alone all being cisgender. We've only been active in the DID community since August 2016, but your girlfriend is only the third such system we've heard of. Your system is quite normal.

Secondly, I appreciate the fact that you allow Amara to be a woman on the outside. I'm a 14-year-old boy in an adult female body so I know how important it is to feel comfortable when you come out.

Lastly, I wish Amara well as she strives to pass as a woman. I know she'll enjoy achieving that goal more than anyone else involved.

Hoping all goes well for everyone.

Thank you for your help Cullen. Its only one alter that has a problem with use having female alters, and Billy went off on her the other day because he was feed up with her crap. See she claimed to be the protector of there system but has never protected them from anything (that always falls on Billy) she always came out and caused problems for both Billy and her other alters and we and her other alters always had to clean up her messes. the last draw was her saying she was my (Amara) friend then just being mean about me existing and making me feel horrible about it, Billy wasn't having it and just laird it all out for her and now shes not allowed to be around him or anyone in our system for a "long while". Since that things in both our system and his girlfriends have gotten much better.

You can also go to meeting for Trans women. Rob went to one, then I was out for meetings after that. It helped a lot. They understand more than most singles. Hopefully she will learn to deal. Also as too relationships. She does not have to date all of you. Rob is married, he does not want to share, and she isn't my type anyway.

We are transitioning, and one can transition to Intersex, ie a variation of both.

PM if you want.

Jinn

iZombie wrote:You can also go to meeting for Trans women. Rob went to one, then I was out for meetings after that. It helped a lot. They understand more than most singles. Hopefully she will learn to deal. Also as too relationships. She does not have to date all of you. Rob is married, he does not want to share, and she isn't my type anyway.

We are transitioning, and one can transition to Intersex, ie a variation of both.

PM if you want.

Jinn

That's great, we just PMed you our user name for kik