protector-alter fronting...

last week, we had an incident where we felt upset. had lent our guitar to a stranger (who seemed to know what he was doing) and he whacked it outta tune by breaking a string and got unpredictable onstage.

J... oh J. J is our protective alter and wow did J take hold/front. Trouble is, J is not confrontational, but will defend to the death it seems. trouble too is that our physical form is NOT equipped to fight.

So... L was able to navigate the fog that usually comes over everyone but J when J fronts, and calm J. it worked, and we went in a few seconds from wanting to stomp onstage and attack this guy, to calmly taking the incident in stride and letting guy know that we were not mad. in the middle of this of course, guy comes up and says 'i am sorry, but your guitar was out of tune.' we coped with that rather than getting irate or dramatic/crying even by saying 'thanks, but this is not something that I want to talk about right now, but don't worry.' J usually would wanna mouth off or something, but no... J is learning now, through L, as all of us are learning through L.

J spontaneously appears when we feel either great stress, or threat, or sometimes during intense physical/intimate moments with another-bodied person. or tonight though; J fronted unexpecedly; a surprise, but a chill trip to a store.

this is GOOD, because we as a system will Not be helped if J stayed in the fight or mouth-off reaction to a threat. they're learning; they are also learning that they can be more of a happy/less angry at the world type.

We have someone like your J. She (Heather) can be harsh but I (Terrin) like it. Host (C) does not. When host is firmly in front, she can sometimes listen to Heather but not lose the front and be assertive. That's when everyone's needs get met. Congrats on your victory. Sounds like your team was functioning to the benefit of the whole.
Terrin