Traumatized alter stuck at front?

Hey there, this is the host.

For the past few days we've had a lot of trouble switching, with two traumatized alters holding the front. I managed to come out yesterday but the two traumatized alters keep fighting for the front, and keep threatening to drop out of our college and hurt themselves. I've asked them how I can help but they keep insisting that the only way is to either end our lives or leave our abusive house (which we currently cannot do). We don't have access to any mental health care so there's no one I can really turn to. Our friends are also nowhere to be found lately.

What can I do? I want our Internal System Helper back. She helps us do our homework and can help calm them down.I can't do that. Our traumatized alters aren't letting me do my homework and our professors won't give us deadlines. I'm scared we're going to fail all our classes again like we did last semester.
We're stuck, how do I get them out of the front? They won't listen no matter how much I ask them to let me do what we need to.

I can't communicate with my alters as much as they can communicate with each other. I don't know what to do. Please help.

- Host

In my opinion you need to do whatever it takes to make everyone feel safe...this is only your second post, so I couldn't discern your situation well, but as long things feel unsafe to the two traumatized alters, they are probably going to remain in front. I'm sure you don't want to hear this, but you may need to make some hard choices about school and your abusive home. Healing isn't easy. I know one young lady on Wordpress who had to leave her entire family and move to a new city to have a chance to heal and have a life. I have spent years as a couch potato in front of the tv while I ignored a lot of other things I would have rather been doing because 2 of my wife's most traumatized insiders needed me to be close so they could heal. I don't know what you will need to do, but there may be no way to synch all the things you want to do AND help your system feel safe. You may need to sacrifice something...

i don't have suggestions but just wanted to let you know i've been in similar situations where things were so chaotic inside and outside with the same feelings you are having and not enough support.

the only thing that helped me in the end was being a stable environment which helped other things stabilize. without that happening, things were just always in a constant state of upheaval among other things. it was very difficult.

hope things improve for you soon.

Do they realize that being able to focus on your education is one of the fastest and safest ways to be able to leave current situation? If not, explaining that might help. I hear you say that "I cant" help them. If your inner self helper doesn't return it just might be your time to start learning his/her skills. You shouldn't call out such comments because it hasn't been your job. It doesn't mean that you can't learn. Systems are dynamic like that and jobs can change.

Been diagnosed schiziphrenia the last 25 years. I always suspected DID but dismissed it. Denial I guess.

I had a crisis earlier in the year, and as a result, my others that live with my mum went. This was last March. Knowing full well something was wrong, I went back to the pyshciatrist, and ended up with a therapist. She is pretty certain it's DID.

My other that lives with my mum now is referred to as the walking zombie (WZ).I even adopted the name, as I had to call him something when writing my journal. I've said in my journal, that I feel lost, and not so sure if who I am anymore. I think of WZ as being very detached from my mum, Only speaks when spoken to, doesn't engage in conversation at all, talks quietly. Mum wishes she could have her old me's back. I do too, cos I really don't like WZ.

What doesn't help is, that I am different with other people, cheerful no problems(CNP). Mum is aware of this.

There is another that comes out when angered, and goes into a long rant.

Last session I had with my T, she suggested a name change of WZ, as she doesn't think it helps.

So my question is, any thoughts on WZ as he is out most of the time.

totally agree with your T about the name. I refuse to call my wife's insiders anything except real, people kind of names as a way of validating them. They are more than just an emotion or state of being or anything less than human even though they are only 'part' of my wife.