Seeking some advice

Hello/hi,

Im seeking some advice about approaching alters. There seem to be an increasing of awareness ( im pretty sure about this actually ) and communication goes very well currently.

Im seeking advice in ways to approach alters. i know I/we view ourselves/ them as people, but am looking for some input on how to approach. Theyre trying to contact me, I believe in them, am at an point i cant really dismiss them anymore and seem to get the hang of it.
Now as they try to contact me ( someone approves this, I cant put my finger on it right now ) it feels as if an different approach will "drag"them over so to say, as if that will help them bursting into awareness and finally will establish some clear contact. As they are for me/us obviously are real people with different personalities and attitudes, outlooks, views and temper.

Another is, we read on this site, atleast i do, and try to communicate to others to do aswell, or atleast tell them if they want to join. I found that similarites on this site ( if that is what it is, im not sure ) can help communication. Like, setups i read from other systems can be helpfull
It was like they were waiting for me to realize this, if that is what it is. My drive to help them, to communicate is really through the roof, perhaps its not my excitement, but it feels as if meeting becomes unavoidable now.

Just looking for some input on how to approach alters ( we have read other topics about this, but feel making our own topic will give an sense of actually interacting with other DID-folks, as others inside have an strong desire to communicate with other systems/alters Its pretty neat and thrilling ) And am wondering if this will just take time and patience, there is really no hurry now, less focussing and just talking back, or when it is somewhat more calmed and just asking questions seems to clearly work better.

I feel weird now
I dont know how to feel about asking, if it just takes time and patience as it is obvious somehow, but still.

Me/us

I don't know if this will help, but the T we go to has said to try talking to yourselves like you would a friend, it seemed strange to my gf but it made sense to me (since my inner dialogue never shuts up) The T says they can hear you. So maybe practice talking to them in the mirror like you would for a job interview. For the record- I think it was a great post, I am honestly surprised you didn't get tons of responses. I also wish I had more to offer

Hi,

Thank you for the advice. I/we are trying that. Were on an point about suggesting names now, asking if they want an name or if they are ready to share. Also, lots of inviting in the body, so we can learn. Its figuring about what works for me/us, and system awareness in geenral. Supporting them in communicating, and with clear intent. Sending messages with images.
I think that some of us ( being carefull with this ) can only come in the body through being triggered still.
Notes seem to work for me/us. the name suggesting is overwhelming and the littles see it as an game somewhat. Also listening and just talking. I think I made it to complex again, and should take it light. Just sending stuff into headspace and reaching out. Asking ots of questions instead of figuring directly out. Some sort of "wroking around it" and asking further when having an name/writing it down. Patience is not my strongest point in this. Need to remind ( even with notes ) that I should talk back/communicate, as I(?) have an habit(?) of going mute at times, just staring of into space which is, or numbing totally out, or it is increasingly overwhelming.

Also when stuff doesnt work in our system, it seems to have reasons. When switching doesnt work, it has reason behind it. Im trying to come in contact with my gatekeeper, as i suspect he has an couple of names. Think its an matter of time and patience, and an increase in communication.

Thank you for the reply and thank you for thinking it was a great post

It sounds like you are on the right path I know when we named my gf's first and only alter to accidentally out herself to me, she hated every name I asked her about, lol, it was very trying. Maybe, with your littles, you could give each 2 choices to pick from? Sort of like when you ask a child what they want to drink and they take forever to decide but if you ask them do you want sprite or root beer they can decide faster. They might also respond to nicknames you have had throughout your life. From what I understand littles are like children (sometimes they are advanced in certain areas ) so when dealing with some of gf's alters I think of it as I am dealing with a child and I am able to react appropriately to the situation in front of me. I am the sole communicator in her system since they won't interact with each other yet, I am blessed to have this role. I also have found this forum very helpful when people respond, I feel that the SO forum doesn't have the answers I seek, mostly because I need first hand experience, you will find that here I hope this might be helpful info for you.

thanks. great suggestions. our communication is still in the early stages yet increasing. will make a separated topic for this. i/we will try those. names are something were currently at. just going through an namebook and someone may pop up. those instances seem to happen lately. from. loud thought to not me thought and in between. just an "knowing".
suggestion is definitely an huge validation to increase awareness and communication.

me/us