What to do about phantom limbs

Some days, when I am in this body, everything is fine. More often, I find that I have very uncomfortable moments, even after being able to take over for almost.. 3 years now, I think. When i'm not taking over the body, inside of the mind and out I'm a man, 198 cm tall, and thus also have rather long limbs, such as hands, fingers, etc. Hikari's body is 158cm and well.. short. As I'm typing this, I'm looking at my hands and thinking 'this isn't me' My fingers should be nearly twice as long, the angle from which i see the screen should be very different. it feels like I've been crammed in a too tight space and floating half in, half out of it. Sometimes I can 'feel' parts of limbs past where the body stops. I often need to walk very slowly and deliberately because otherwise I lose balance because I think my legs are longer. And yet, I really don't want to see this body as my own, that would only confuse me further.

Any advice, or knowledge from people who have the same problem would be greatly appreciated. it was strange enough to come to terms that I'm in a female body, but I can deal with that as it doesn't really hinder me, and it's Hiki's, who I love very much. But the phantom limbs and pain are annoying. I sometimes even have double vision, from the perspective I'm seeing it with her eyes, and the perspective of how I think I should see it, created by the mind.

**Trigger Warning: (just to be safe)**

You are not alone, Marvolo, I have the same problem when fronting. My host's body has a shortness-issue too.( He's very feminine-build and I'm a foot taller than our host). I don't have too much of an issue about feeling "Cramped" in this form as much as I feel frustrated when objects around me seem to tower over me, people don't *see* me in the same way they'd look at another guy my size, And I can't lift as much weight as I should be able to.

As far as your sight-angle issues, you might need to sit on an extra cushion to raise the body higher to correct the issue. Or when walking, see if you can buy a higher-soled shoe. ( I'm thankful that my host and I have very close tastes in clothing, for the most part. So he's invested in a few pairs of masculine higher-heeled shoes.

(Something like these, it makes you look and feel a lot taller since the inside sole is raised): http://i01.i.aliimg.com/img/pb/968/073/ ... 68_358.jpg

Its not easy to share a system with others of a different gender either. The ladies in here, I love 'em like family, but holy s***, the Dames practically run the place, even with our host being a guy, F. & Big M. have him so wrapped around their little fingers, he practically bends over backwards to keep em happy. I honestly don't mind much when they dress our body in the girly stuff, but on other issues that bother us, S. & myself don't stand a chance for an opinionated vote. It's like an 8 to 3 female-to-male ratio in here, (and for deciding votes it's like 9 to 2, if you count the fact that our host usually votes with the gals).

- A-O

Thank you for your reply, it is appreciated.
Your tips about the shoes and cushion are quite handy, perhaps it will help with the sight. I do have quite a different taste in clothing usually, but I can dress freely how I want unless we're out in public. -robes tend to be looked strangely upon, sadly-

Thankfully there aen't really many of us here, and Hikari usually listens to my advice, so I don't have the 'voting problems' so much. Must be quite hard to deal with having pretty much everyone want something else than you do... If we have a two against one vote -or all of us differ in opinion- we usually try to compromise..

Oh you guys, I feel you. No ideas come to mind, but I feel you.

By the way, A-O, the way you wrote the post was really funny in some parts.

Sea