Holiday weirdness--wishing everyone well

For me it happens the same thing as Salted Lipstick. I've looked it up in the past, though it never sticks on my mind when it is, nor why it was stablished. Anyhow, the first thing I thought when I read Nondescript was, thank you finally I have a date to link to the holiday.

I completely understand the feeling, I've felt that too. Sometimes, I'm like the grinch, and I enjoy doing something different.

Nondescript, I'm sending you peace and calming energy so that these days are not that unsettling.

When re-reading your post something came to mind. Yesterday, I was wondering why again I was sad about and issue that I thought was already behind. Then, I remember that I was watching at life through a very different eyes. I was very sensitive and empathic with others, and very caring. That's one of the phrases a psychologists said regarding grieving. It puts us in a place where we are not normally at, and thus we see live differently.

So, when you mentioned that the incoordination issues were because alters are co-present, it's hard, but could it be an opportunity for you two to talk, or understand yourselves and why the incoordination happens, maybe a way to break a little the walls or just getting to know each other better?

CopperFox wrote:First of all, we got there earlier than everybody else that was invited. Not too bad but our grandparents are hopeless gossips and judge EVERYBODY. This body isn't stick thin but is lucky enough to be pretty average. They talked about that, which has always been a triggering topic for low self-esteem in our host.

Humm, this has happened to me, and it gives me a reminder not to be that on time next time, because I don't want to be in that situation again. I hope your grandparents judgement haven't affect your host.

CopperFox wrote:Finally, after dinner conversations. Our host is bisexual, this Saturday she has a date with a female, Saturday is a day we'll usually be found at our aunts house but I told our aunt (in front of everyone as it so happened) kelly had 'a date' because she isn't out yet but to 2 specific people.

It was like a sound tornado flipped on. Who, when, what's HIS name?! The date is an hour away and we went to her the first time so this time she's coming here, that was a question. I said 'yes they're coming here this time' Amid all the questions and elbow to rib jokes one of the uncles joked 'it is a guy right?'

Qué the poker face. Or so I thought. It was a train wreck and somehow I pretty much 'came out' for her.

This kind of thing DOES NOT happen to me. I'm supposed to be here to protect her, it's what I've done for 15 years. I don't know how I let it come out but I did. No one disowned us or anything but it was obvious a few were pretty unhappy about it.

Not a stellar day. Not at all.

The way you told the story made me laugh in some parts, though I don't mean any disrespect. I find it cool that your family knows and that she's "out". Because I don't understand why anyone needs to feel "in a closet" anyways? Who puts anyone there? I've got no closet. Though I understand and respect that it's a personal choice to decide who and when to tell, if ever.

I think I laugh at thinking about your uncle's expression, and the family, because it breaks so many paradigms about what's "supposed" to be. I also laugh about you saying "this doesn't happen to me". It's funny and beautiful. I agree with others, I don't think you did a bad job whatsoever. You're all a team, and I think good things might come from them knowing. You won't have to hide, or make up excuses of why you were with a girl, and so, and so.

am4kds wrote:It was, my husband said, the most relaxed I have ever been around his family.

I'm glad you were calmed yesterday.

Well, I think all this good energy and wishes of peace knocked on my door yesterday. Thank you all.

Sea