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An "other" with a question

Postby Katarina4248 » Mon Jun 23, 2014 3:47 am

Hello all,

My name is Strength. I hope I've come to the right people as I have some questions to ask.

We see our therapist on Tues., and I wrote him a letter tonight discussing certain recent events. We only have a diagnosis of PTSD, though of course he's more than aware of our dissociative symptoms and tendencies.

Edit: Strength here. I'm so sorry that somehow submitted when I hit enter instead of starting a new paragraph. :/

Anyway, as I was saying. The letter was basically this: After a few weeks of building up to it, on 5/27 things for us finally came to a real crisis.

It was during this crisis stage that she ( what most of you would call a host?) "triggered" me and we began what I call either a "conference" or "conversation" between the 2 of us and another guardian as to how to handle the current crisis.

This initial conversation lasted at least a few hours, and then was picked up again later when the first attempts to implement the plan had failed. The second collaboration again lasted at least a few hours, and this time was successful in quelling the crisis.

Since then, She has been having more and more dissociative symptoms. It 's distracting to her whenever we're "speaking" inside. She can't just ignore us as inner voices anymore. In fact she's going out of her way to welcome us and I'm not entirely sure I'm comfortable with that. I liked things the way they were, and I don't know why they have to change.

Anyway, I wrote the letter to the Therapist, so he can see it and he can help her. But I'm feeling really hesitant about giving it to him now. What do you all think? Does it sound important?

Thank you for listening,
Strength
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Re: An "other" with a question

Postby Professer » Mon Jun 23, 2014 8:04 am

Hello Strength --

The letter to the therapist is important. In fact, any information that can be directed to the therapist is important. Please don't be surprised if others want to write information to the therapist. To keep confusion to a minimum, each "other" needs to sign or make a mark on the paper to indicate who is writing or talking.

The change where the host is more aware of the communicating between others is a good change however, it may be useful to have quiet times when the host needs to concentrate or complete a task. See if you and the others can work something out for the best of all concerned.

Does the host journal or keep a diary? That would be another good thing because some of the inside chatter is because some "others" talk because they fear they are unheard. The journal will give them an outlet to state their concerns where it can be read and re-read to be fully acknowledged.

There may have been a time when change was dangerous or scary. That change is now happening is a sign of growth, and there is Strength in flexibility.

Best wishes for Tuesday's appointment!
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Re: An "other" with a question

Postby Katarina4248 » Mon Jun 23, 2014 10:22 am

Thank you for your reply Professer,

She, the host Katarina, has set up a private online journal of sorts in order to facilitate "outside" communication. No one has written in it yet, besides her though. But perhaps they too need to get used to the idea.

I'm doing what I can to keep things on an even keel. And you're right, she's only begun to work on her trauma within the past few months. Now as she uncovers those memories, so do we. Those that pertain to each of us. And now I think she's truly begun to realize how long we've been with her.

Thank you again Professer. At least now I know I'm not leading her down a wrong path.
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