Nothing I can do and feeling helpless

I am a spouse to someone with DID. We have an incredible relationship, very open and communicative about anything and everything. We both discovered his DID together at the same time about three years ago and have worked together as a team ever since. Right now he is going through a pretty rough patch. He is VERY withdrawn, we hardly talk at all right now (face to face, or via text which is usually the way we talk most during these times), never touch (VERY unusual for us) and he is very much inside his head. None of this is really abnormal, with the exception of the almost no communication or physical contact, during these times. I am just finding this one to be a lot harder for me to help with. I am not pushing him or probing. I’m just letting him know that he isn’t alone, that I love him and am here by his side, not going anywhere. All I want to do is help him, to carry some of his load for him so he doesn’t have to struggle so much, or carry such a heavy load. I know in my head that I’m doing all I can do to help him right now and that I can’t walk the road for him…I just wish I could do more. I feel utterly helpless.

Thanks everyone for reading.

floundering wrote:I am a spouse to someone with DID. We have an incredible relationship, very open and communicative about anything and everything. We both discovered his DID together at the same time about three years ago and have worked together as a team ever since. Right now he is going through a pretty rough patch. He is VERY withdrawn, we hardly talk at all right now (face to face, or via text which is usually the way we talk most during these times), never touch (VERY unusual for us) and he is very much inside his head. None of this is really abnormal, with the exception of the almost no communication or physical contact, during these times. I am just finding this one to be a lot harder for me to help with. I am not pushing him or probing. I’m just letting him know that he isn’t alone, that I love him and am here by his side, not going anywhere. All I want to do is help him, to carry some of his load for him so he doesn’t have to struggle so much, or carry such a heavy load. I know in my head that I’m doing all I can do to help him right now and that I can’t walk the road for him…I just wish I could do more. I feel utterly helpless.

Thanks everyone for reading.

Don't feel helpless. You are helping him by being there for him. If you was helpless you wouldn't even be able to try. I'm sure it'll be okay in time.

You are there, and that is helping.