Nervousness

Hi everyone. I have a question.. And if anyone can relate that would be great. Well every since the system has gotten involved in the psychforums. Being active and stuff. I've began to have like mini panic attacks during the day over it. And it can happen at anytime. Like I can be sitting down watching tv. And my mind can wonder off to the psychforums and my past posts. And I start panicking about what other people on here have said and what they are thinking and sometimes the other alters can feel my panicking its that bad. Its like a feeling in my chest that feels really bad. Like a weight pressing down on it. and it doesn't go away unless I check the psychforums and make sure everything is okay. Does anyone else experience this? Sorry if this is a waste of time for you. Or if this doesn't belong here. I just like the people here. Which is why I posted it here.

At first I felt extremely nervous to post on this subforum, like I wrote in some comments.
Now less so, but I definitely know the feeling of mini panic attacks and an overall anxious feeling that comes for no reason (or some petty reason) and just doesn't go away until... when it goes away. I'm not sure why it sometimes comes and why it goes away It might even have to do with a certain, always frustrated and confrontational inner person(/alter) being on the surface...

I don't worry. The worse any of my alters can post is personal information like my real name or address. & Since no one here has the sacks to hunt anyone down, even that wouldn't have any impact on my life.

lindi wrote:At first I felt extremely nervous to post on this subforum, like I wrote in some comments.
Now less so, but I definitely know the feeling of mini panic attacks and an overall anxious feeling that comes for no reason (or some petty reason) and just doesn't go away until... when it goes away. I'm not sure why it sometimes comes and why it goes away It might even have to do with a certain, always frustrated and confrontational inner person(/alter) being on the surface...

That's what I experience! panic attacks at random times and not knowing why they start at all! I mean. There's nothing to be nervous about on the psychforums.. Do you have any methods to dealing with it? Or ways to make it less of a problem?

Hi October,

I relate to what you write here.

I don't think I have a mini panic attack, but I do feel a little anxious when writing a post or reading an answer. I'm anxious because I don't want to hurt with my words, because I don't know if an advice I write might be useful, since I'm not a psychologist, nor do I have DID. I'm anxious about saying something incoherent, or writing too long, or not getting an answer at all.

What I experience physically is something in my stomach, in the middle of my body, under my chest. It's kind of a pressure, but is not a bad feeling, it's... the feeling I have when I'm experiencing something new. I can also feel like a weight on my shoulders and I can sweat. Hahaha, I can even tell you that right now I'm sweating writing this.

I think that happens because I'm at the expectative of what others are writing and thinking about me. I also might feel insecure for not having DID and writing here. I've felt this not only in here, but everywhere I'm having a public display. Facebook, Twitter, a talk, a debate, a reunion with friends.

What I do is I breath. I check my thoughts about a topic, and I post what I think about it. I understand that I might be wrong about what I posted, and I'm open to other points of view, to read them without feeling they are attacking me but rather, explaining something different.

I talk to myself and understand that people are different, that sometimes I may receive answers to my posts, sometimes not. That there are no wrong posts, but different points of view, and mine is another point of view. And I don't usually give in to my wish to see the psychforums at anytime. I schedule it for relax time, like when I'm in a break, so I don't let the urge control me, but I set the time when I wanna read them.

And I breath again.

I also do what you say, I understand that this community is an understanding community who wants to help one another, and who gives constructive words and great advice, so that's another think I have in mind to relax myself.

Tell us what ends up working for you.

Sea

Toasty wrote:That's what I experience! panic attacks at random times and not knowing why they start at all! I mean. There's nothing to be nervous about on the psychforums.. Do you have any methods to dealing with it? Or ways to make it less of a problem?

I'm afraid I don't have very good or unique methods
Taking a long walk alone can ease it temporarily, and cutting off the thing you're overly focused on (like these forums?) for a while and doing something completely different (something normal and peaceful, like cooking) can also help... for a while. If you manage to concentrate on some creative activity, it could help at least as long as you keep doing it (for me), but I know that it's hard to concentrate when you're panicky and have other things on your mind.
The best help for me is, if I get a really good sleep, but that's not easy either in the panicky state... so last resort is medicines, either for the panic itself or sleeping.

Seangel wrote:Hi October,

I relate to what you write here.

I don't think I have a mini panic attack, but I do feel a little anxious when writing a post or reading an answer. I'm anxious because I don't want to hurt with my words, because I don't know if an advice I write might be useful, since I'm not a psychologist, nor do I have DID. I'm anxious about saying something incoherent, or writing too long, or not getting an answer at all.

What I experience physically is something in my stomach, in the middle of my body, under my chest. It's kind of a pressure, but is not a bad feeling, it's... the feeling I have when I'm experiencing something new. I can also feel like a weight on my shoulders and I can sweat. Hahaha, I can even tell you that right now I'm sweating writing this.

I think that happens because I'm at the expectative of what others are writing and thinking about me. I also might feel insecure for not having DID and writing here. I've felt this not only in here, but everywhere I'm having a public display. Facebook, Twitter, a talk, a debate, a reunion with friends.

What I do is I breath. I check my thoughts about a topic, and I post what I think about it. I understand that I might be wrong about what I posted, and I'm open to other points of view, to read them without feeling they are attacking me but rather, explaining something different.

I talk to myself and understand that people are different, that sometimes I may receive answers to my posts, sometimes not. That there are no wrong posts, but different points of view, and mine is another point of view. And I don't usually give in to my wish to see the psychforums at anytime. I schedule it for relax time, like when I'm in a break, so I don't let the urge control me, but I set the time when I wanna read them.

And I breath again.

I also do what you say, I understand that this community is an understanding community who wants to help one another, and who gives constructive words and great advice, so that's another think I have in mind to relax myself.

Tell us what ends up working for you.

Sea

That's what I feel seangel, That feeling in your body and the sweating is just what I experience. I'll try to do what you say to stop it next time it happens. I wish I knew why it happened though. And never feel nervous or anything like that to answer to my questions. Because I really like the advice you give. You are actually one of the first person I think about when I think about asking for advice! Haha. I think i'm nervous that people here will judge me and react badly to my post. I hate upsetting people and making them feel negative enough to have to react to it. I just want them to be happy and relaxed.

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lindi wrote:

Toasty wrote:That's what I experience! panic attacks at random times and not knowing why they start at all! I mean. There's nothing to be nervous about on the psychforums.. Do you have any methods to dealing with it? Or ways to make it less of a problem?

I'm afraid I don't have very good or unique methods
Taking a long walk alone can ease it temporarily, and cutting off the thing you're overly focused on (like these forums?) for a while and doing something completely different (something normal and peaceful, like cooking) can also help... for a while. If you manage to concentrate on some creative activity, it could help at least as long as you keep doing it (for me), but I know that it's hard to concentrate when you're panicky and have other things on your mind.
The best help for me is, if I get a really good sleep, but that's not easy either in the panicky state... so last resort is medicines, either for the panic itself or sleeping.

I'm not allowed to do cooking that much anymore. Because its a gas cooker and uhm. I'm really obsessive over fire. Haha. To put it simply. I like how it looks and the warmth and I like burning stuff like paper in it for some reason.

I have the same thing happen to me. Even right after I post something I have to go back and check it to make sure that it is okay. Like you, I could be doing something normal and panic because of the same thing. I don't know how to help because I haven't learned how to help myself yet. I just wanted to say you're not alone with feeling like this. I'm not allowed to play with candles anymore because I burn things with it or I use and alcohol spray like hairspray and create clouds of flame above the candle. I melt when I see flames because I like them so much too.

Toasty wrote:I'm not allowed to do cooking that much anymore. Because its a gas cooker and uhm. I'm really obsessive over fire. Haha. To put it simply. I like how it looks and the warmth and I like burning stuff like paper in it for some reason.

Cooking was just an example - I don't even cook myself, 'cause I'm way too lazy and just not into it But I thought that maybe the household tasks that I find relaxing, like hanging clothes to dry, are not for most people's taste
I love fire too! In recent years I've been more controlled with it (yes, earlier I caused some accidental damage with it - no real disasters though ), but if there are candles around, I can't stop myself from playing with them

Toasty wrote:I think i'm nervous that people here will judge me and react badly to my post. I hate upsetting people and making them feel negative enough to have to react to it. I just want them to be happy and relaxed.

Good, you know what might be making you nervous, maybe you can think about some things that would make you feel more at ease. Like what you think about this community. Also that people here are responsible for they (our) feelings, so you don't need to feel responsible for them. It's nice and thoughtful that you want to think.

Maybe you can use other stuff like music to relax, and maybe accepting and feeling the anxiety. It's there, it shall pass, in the meanwhile, feel it, you know it will decrease.

Take care Octuber.

Sea