Switching and remembering?

Just wondering if anyone else has it the same way or is this even normal in DID. So after a few minutes after a switch the one out starts to know what had happened while someone else was out before. Is that just simply co-consciousness?
Sally

No, that is not co-consciousness. But it is a good sign that you may soon achieve co-consciousness. Your amnesia barriers are somewhat permeable, so that after losing time you are gradually able to "remember" what you missed.

i get this a lot. not so much lately varying degrees of how much info i get. sometimes its days, or the rest of the day before it comes back. sometimes minutes and sometimes not at all.
i did a Google search on permeable amnesia barriers and one up with really good info.
especially the "leaking" of information or sharing of memories part.

have you ever had this happen to you for entire periods of life?

Hi, swansongserenade.
No. This hasn't happened for any long periods. Just maybe a few hours to a day or two.
Aster

This is so our day to day though we are often co-con too.
Even though I've felt both sometimes it is hard to tell apart in retrospect.

Congrats.
It makes a big difference

Hello. I'm new here and your question caught my eye. As far as we know their are only 2 of us in this body. We share memories to an extent and when Tassha is "out" it's sort of like I'm a backseat driver. I'm not sure that DID is exactly what I have but I know that Tassha is not the same as me. She tends to like to exist more online (games and text and such) bit will sometimes come out and take over my body. Not sure what exactly we are but I know it's hard on my husband. Tassha doesn't feel she is married and he can't see her as not me.

I am not sure how this works with others, but the memory-issues were actually the largest surprise i came across when finding this forum and reading posts... In our system there is one host, one protector and one protector/teenager but we all share our memories and switch actively. We can also contact each other when one of us is out. Do any other people have this or is this considered rare?? I never met someone else with DID in person and our therapist could not provide us with any real-life experiences either...

GeMerope wrote:I am not sure how this works with others, but the memory-issues were actually the largest surprise i came across when finding this forum and reading posts... In our system there is one host, one protector and one protector/teenager but we all share our memories and switch actively. We can also contact each other when one of us is out. Do any other people have this or is this considered rare?? I never met someone else with DID in person and our therapist could not provide us with any real-life experiences either...

From what I've heard many multiples only reach that level of co-consciousness (which seems to be what you're describing in addition to deliberate switching - not certain) after years of getting to know their system and working on it.

Could be you just have really good communication instead of truly being co-conscious (both is the case for us some of the time)

co-con is like riding in a car together: one of you drives while the others watch the road from the back seat, they don't have executive control - the driver does - but they are present for it and should be able to communicate with other passangers and driver all the while.

sticking with the car analogy, those who have severe memory issues are in the boot while another drives and aren't able to see the road at all. There simply isn't anything to remember in that case, because they weren't in a position to see anything. That's not to say a co-operative group can't fill the person who was in the boot in on what happened later.

Mal & me were already fairly aware of each other and had stopped keeping secrets by the time we got diagnosed, but other parts of our group were still (mostly) cut off then. Even though I usually retained factual knowledge of what had gone on when they were Fronting/Out/Hosting I could not remember details or how they had felt. That's getting better as we go along.

Every group is different.
Sounds like you have a good thing going there

Hmm, that sounds like a good analogy. Usually when one is in control the others are in the mindscape and can hear and see what the other does and comment on it, but also go deeper sometimes so the one in control doesn't hear the others, but the memories are always there when switching. I'm not sure if it's just good communication... when I am in control and 'remember' things of when one of my alters in control I do know they are the others' memories, although this feeling fades the more time are between that event and now.

it has not always been like this now I think of it. Both my alters developed differently. Yuki was more repressed and broke out without me having any control over it and I really felt as if I was trapped, whereas Marvolo only learnt to 'take over' after years, and before that was more of an entity that floated outside of my mind altogether although he did somehow help in repressing Yuki when she was still very violent.

Yuki still sticks to my mindscape a lot and usually I have no idea what she's doing unless I actively seek contact with her, but Marvolo is always very present and still often outside of my body as it makes me feel less lonely and makes communication easier. I have no memories of what either of them do when in my mind, but I do remember everything from when they were out -or at least to the same extent of what I remember of what i do myself when i'm out as I tend to be forgetful so I can't claim to remember all .