Ashamed of Sexual Arousal

Hey there,

Just wanted to echo what the others said here about it being totally crap but normal response trauma, though those words do not do the feelings justice at all.

We have had horrible problems with this and used to find sex to deal with it but as wee got older, got married and figured out why and where these strange sensations and intrusive triggered sensations came from and we became more and more dissociative-so we would be triggered and not realise what by and why and take forever to figure stuff out.

We thought we might share a practical to for getting rid of these sensations that dose not involve the other-am ice pack. It may skins strange but my partner suggested it because she said we shouldn't punish our self buy causing our self pain but at least with an ice pack it numbs the area and that's that's! It really works for us.

The nightmares that you said about were the real reason we replied. We have lived with them for to long. We have recently over the past months found that talking about, writing a about the dream with my alters that it concerns (so no Littles!) And giving everyone the chance to cry and be upset or angry and write or talk really helps. Have you tried this? I hope you haven't because it means that there is some thing to try before sleep time! Also have you tried putting all your alters to your safe place in an imaginary safe place in your head? Have you read/heard of people with did having internal worlds like this? Do you have one thou could use?

Hope ths helps?

We will be sending you safe and caring thoughts

Sam

-- Sun Mar 16, 2014 4:06 am --

Hey there,

Just wanted to echo what the others said here about it being totally crap but normal response trauma, though those words do not do the feelings justice at all.

We have had horrible problems with this and used to find sex to deal with it but as wee got older, got married and figured out why and where these strange sensations and intrusive triggered sensations came from and we became more and more dissociative-so we would be triggered and not realise what by and why and take forever to figure stuff out.

We thought we might share a practical to for getting rid of these sensations that dose not involve the other-am ice pack. It may skins strange but my partner suggested it because she said we shouldn't punish our self buy causing our self pain but at least with an ice pack it numbs the area and that's that's! It really works for us.

The nightmares that you said about were the real reason we replied. We have lived with them for to long. We have recently over the past months found that talking about, writing a about the dream with my alters that it concerns (so no Littles!) And giving everyone the chance to cry and be upset or angry and write or talk really helps. Have you tried this? I hope you haven't because it means that there is some thing to try before sleep time! Also have you tried putting all your alters to your safe place in an imaginary safe place in your head? Have you read/heard of people with did having internal worlds like this? Do you have one thou could use?

Hope ths helps?

We will be sending you safe and caring thoughts

Sam

Thank you so much Sam for the advice/ I will try what you suggested before sleep tonight. And yes, I keep a journal. Thoughts, feelings and dreams/Very important.
Take Care!

Bastet777 wrote:A well, I should say too that the arousal feelings just happen out of the blue sometimes . Even when not thinking about anyone or anything in particular. It's like by body is in some kind of trigger mode. Has any one experienced this?

Yes. During my crisis, I frequently experienced body memories that would seesaw between very intense arousal and pain. The pain was nowhere near as intense as the arousal but it did get me paranoid- thinking that the sensations were caused by a tumorous growth. I recall, at one particular moment, I was remembering a particularly gross violent crime against me (of a non-sexual nature) while at the same time I was experiencing sexual arousal. My therapist, months later explained that one dissociation can trigger multiple other dissociations in a layer effect such that the sensation and emotion being experienced may not match up to what is happening in the mind. IIRC, it wasn't until about a month or more after, that I finally recalled my childhood sexual abuse history.

The sensation has dulled somewhat now but I often get the feeling of that part of my female anatomy being occupied.

Yes. During my crisis, I frequently experienced body memories that would seesaw between very intense arousal and pain. The pain was nowhere near as intense as the arousal but it did get me paranoid- thinking that the sensations were caused by a tumorous growth. I recall, at one particular moment, I was remembering a particularly gross violent crime against me (of a non-sexual nature) while at the same time I was experiencing sexual arousal. My therapist, months later explained that one dissociation can trigger multiple other dissociations in a layer effect such that the sensation and emotion being experienced may not match up to what is happening in the mind. IIRC, it wasn't until about a month or more after, that I finally recalled my childhood sexual abuse history.

The sensation has dulled somewhat now but I often get the feeling of that part of my female anatomy being occupied.[/quote]


Are you saying that these body memories eventually lead you to recall the actual abuse? Did you have amnesia before these? I have complete amnesia regarding the abuse save for fragments in nightmares and body memories and feelings.
I really appreciate all the responses that I am receiving. Really helpful.