Alter jumbling emotions- depressive lows :@(

Hi there,

I have hit a jumbling wall of depressive highs and lows. I feel like me and all of my other parts have been put inside a tumble dryer and left to spin. Every now and then the pause button being put on. Giving us the notion to try and steady our selves but we cant. We feel dizzy and sad.

For my part (river) i feel like i am letting other parts of my self down. To survive it has been my job to minimise everything we have gone through. I have had to do this with everything, big and small. If I didn't then we would not have been able to survive. Now I still want to do it. I want to deny things but i know i cant because then i wont be letting my other parts heal. River

She wants to do her best and her best is to stay in control, thats her mojo. Now she knows that being in control isnt always the best for all parts of us. For jerry and lost they need to be able to heal and to do that they need to be able to speak out but if they do that, River is going to Emotionally hurt and River is not ready for that.

How do we let Jerry and lost heal and not over welm River at the same time? River has been through so much in the past 3 months. Her partner also. She is so aware of this and would rather bury things than hurt her partner but bury things she can not. She needs to find some kind of half wy measure. We do not know what this half way measure is. Can anyone help?
Sam.

We can not change what has been done and we can not help but feel sad for that. Just accept that there are bad things that have been done to us and we can not change adn those bad things haev all kinds of names attached and some names are worse than others. I that we have all know that we have been given a bad deal but a lot of people but when different parts of us realise things that other parts do not, it shocks the system. Make sure that you give all of us the love and care that we need. Part of love and care is accepting what we feel is true and right no matter how hard it is.


Never dimiss any part of us because we have been dimissed by the bad people and when you try ignore what we say. When you try and make it not true. You deny that those things happened to us and you deny the hurt in our heart and deny the pain in our heart. INstead pleasse hold our hands and hug us tight and let us know you believe us and will care for us and no matter what never say we lie. tell us you love us. Aceept us.

Hi River & Family,

It's amazing that I came on today to talk about what my husband is going through and thinking "I don't know how to explain it to anyone in words" and then I read your post. This is how he is feeling right now also.

riverside wrote:. I feel like me and all of my other parts have been put inside a tumble dryer and left to spin. Every now and then the pause button being put on. Giving us the notion to try and steady our selves but we cant. We feel dizzy and sad.

Right now everyone's emotions are everywhere and he hears and feels everyone and it's just too overwhelming for him. The roller coaster ride he has been going on and no doubt you have too I'm sure is stressful. I do hope that someone is able to respond to your post and give you an idea of what could help you because I'm very interested too.

The main thing I wanted to say to you though was Thank You. Thank you for this:

We can not change what has been done and we can not help but feel sad for that. Just accept that there are bad things that have been done to us and we can not change adn those bad things haev all kinds of names attached and some names are worse than others. I that we have all know that we have been given a bad deal but a lot of people but when different parts of us realise things that other parts do not, it shocks the system. Make sure that you give all of us the love and care that we need. Part of love and care is accepting what we feel is true and right no matter how hard it is.

Never dimiss any part of us because we have been dimissed by the bad people and when you try ignore what we say. When you try and make it not true. You deny that those things happened to us and you deny the hurt in our heart and deny the pain in our heart. INstead pleasse hold our hands and hug us tight and let us know you believe us and will care for us and no matter what never say we lie. tell us you love us. Aceept us.

I know know I know that he's been dealt a bad...horrible hand but what I can do is give "all of them love and care that they need... no matter how hard it is". You have no idea how much these 2 paragraphs have affected me.

So Thank to you all River. You came on here to get help and I bet you didn't know that you were going to help someone in return. I hope things work out and things settle down and you have some good days coming on the horizon. Nite.

Hi again,

It's ok to feel. A psychologist once said that sometimes, we are in a hurry to feel better that we miss the opportunity that is given to us by what ever we are feeling. When we are sad, we see things from a different perspective, and sometimes we need to feel it and acknowledge it, so that we can later let it go.

That doesn't mean you have or will stay for ever feeling that way, but it is ok to feel that way. Specially after learning things that are hurtful. You have every right to feel sad, and angry, and then let those feelings go.

riverside wrote:For my part (river) i feel like i am letting other parts of my self down. To survive it has been my job to minimise everything we have gone through. I have had to do this with everything, big and small. If I didn't then we would not have been able to survive. Now I still want to do it. I want to deny things but i know i cant because then i wont be letting my other parts heal. River

River, girl, you've made an excellent job. Now, other parts of you are expressing maybe things that needed to be said; and letting things out, so that maybe they could be processed. You're not letting them down, you can lean on them too; they got you too.

riverside wrote:She wants to do her best and her best is to stay in control, thats her mojo. Now she knows that being in control isnt always the best for all parts of us. For jerry and lost they need to be able to heal and to do that they need to be able to speak out but if they do that, River is going to Emotionally hurt and River is not ready for that.

How do we let Jerry and lost heal and not over welm River at the same time? River has been through so much in the past 3 months. Her partner also. She is so aware of this and would rather bury things than hurt her partner but bury things she can not. She needs to find some kind of half wy measure. We do not know what this half way measure is. Can anyone help?
Sam.

This is a difficult one, Sam. This is where I wish I had a magic formulae. ... I think it is so important that Jerry and Lost are expressing, 'coz when they heal, you all heal. Maybe, you guys could do it slower. You all have been through so, so, so much in such a short period, that maybe if you let things out slowly, River will have time to process things better. Sometimes, we just need time to digest everything that's given to us.

About her partner, does she go to a T? It's so beautiful she thinks about her, but burying things won't help, 'coz she'll be suffering. Maybe she could also tell her partner, that she's going through a rough time, but express her her love, and that she knows they both will go through it together.

I don't know what that half way measure is, but maybe adding to giving it some time, you could try exercising and consequently resting better. Do you guys exercise? Also, do you guys have done lately things you enjoy? How about with your partner? Maybe in doing those things you can let the "healing topic" aside, for a moment, and just enjoy a movie, a book, some exercise, coloring a book, or what ever you guys want to stop thinking about, and let it be processed in a slower rate.

riverside wrote:We can not change what has been done and we can not help but feel sad for that. Just accept that there are bad things that have been done to us and we can not change adn those bad things haev all kinds of names attached and some names are worse than others. I that we have all know that we have been given a bad deal but a lot of people but when different parts of us realise things that other parts do not, it shocks the system. Make sure that you give all of us the love and care that we need. Part of love and care is accepting what we feel is true and right no matter how hard it is.

Never dimiss any part of us because we have been dimissed by the bad people and when you try ignore what we say. When you try and make it not true. You deny that those things happened to us and you deny the hurt in our heart and deny the pain in our heart. INstead pleasse hold our hands and hug us tight and let us know you believe us and will care for us and no matter what never say we lie. tell us you love us. Aceept us.

Again, it's ok to feel sad. Accepting that bad things were done to you, it's tough, and hurtful and difficult. It's a tough process... and sometimes, we can only give it time. Sometimes we cannot speed things up, 'coz we need to live some processes to the fullest.

It's completely normal that when a part of the system realizes something new, it shocks all the system. It's an awesome prove that you guys are so linked to each other.

Read it here: River, and Sam, and Jake, and Jerry, and Lost, and Wispa, and Elliot, and Claire and Spoke, and everyone I haven't met yet. You all are so very much loved here. Can you guys feel it? Can my words express it? All of you are important, all of your history and your personal stories, your likes and dislikes, your uniqueness, and your commonness, your fears, and your strengths, your pain, and your happiness. From here, at this moment, and whenever you read, and whenever you read again, and whenever you remember it I'm holding your hands, I'm sharing my love, I'm hugging you tight, I'm accepting every part of who you are, and love every part of who you are.

Sea