Protector Need to change way I do it

Hi need some help in changing the way I protect my to sisters. Out there in the world I am not a nice person I swear a lot and have a short fuzes. I can make friends but do not keep them long as they just start to piss me off.
I have always been there for my sisters and if enyone started bulling them I would pound them into the ground. I was needed a lot when Babs was at school she had a lot of health and speach troubles. Being the man of the house I have always tacken over when trouble came along but now we are older and BJ is very good at standing her ground she is worried, the way I do things would get us into trouble. I can not seem to control it though some one get's in her face I just come out and hit them. I know we are all very down at the moment very importent friend died and all three of us had ower on relasionships with him. But in the last three weeks I have knocket out two guys that were being mean to my sister. She is not happy and is scared someone may go to the Police.
How do I stop jumping in ??

Tor: As a protector myself, I'll try to give you a word of advice. Sometimes violence is good for protecting, but other times it's not necessary or might be going too far. When it's not appropriate, try to take a second just to breathe and hold yourself back. Words can get a lot across too if you choose the right ones. And sometimes they're the more effective one anyway. Just take a second to breathe, and then try reacting verbally.

If this is useless advice, I apologize. Self-control is sometimes easier said than done.

Thanks eny adive is welcome, I need to change a lot I have been working hard on changing and reading what others right on this Forum has help me greatly.
Since my sister started seeing a T and I have lessioned in on some of it I have found out how hard she is finding life and I have been adding to her stress. So I need to help her more but I just do not get on with people but I can help with not getting invoiled when she can handal it, but it is so hard to see her upset. I will try the breathing and try and wight and see if she can deal with it with out me. I am very good at verbale put downs!

Hey there, I am a protector and I cannot offer much advice other than I never result in physical violence other than, never throw the first punch or get up in people's faces unless needed. I have always protected and most people can tell that I am pissed so my face scares people, mostly also, words go along way. Best of Luck, Sean. Also if you want to fight, then just go in another room, and cool off

I am Manny, and I am all muscle, and my muscles stick out when I am out, I am not so much 'mean' as I have to be careful because I am extremely strong and muscular but I only help out with workouts and strength stuff, and the occasional fight if needed when we are being attacked. I am not a hot head like Sean. I am more unemotional.

Changing stuff you want to change doesn't just mean figuring out what you can do instead but figuring out what you can be comfortable with doing and how, and internalizing the understanding emotionally that you have the choice and another reaction is equally effective, which is probably the key part.