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Do you feel comfortable being a kid around others?

Postby ck0507 » Sun Aug 04, 2013 10:17 am

Okay not sure how to explain this...but there's quite a few times I've experienced being a kid/young teen (11 or 12) around people only to snap out of it a little and realize that I'm a 30 year old man who is over weight (which feels so foreign to me at the time) and feel shame about it. Maybe shame isn't the word...I feel silly though! Like I'm an idiot for acting so young! I should be far more mature.

...There's a professor I have in college and he happens to be the chief of police. I was lucky to be able to have spent a little bit of time with him, and I always revert to a teen around him (I don't think I completely split...I'm very co-conscious) and take to him like he's a fatherly figure. I don't know how to explain it, but I'm just so young and naive around him! I don't know what he sees or hears...but I feel I crave his attention and approval and so badly want him to mentor me when I'm around him. I lacked a strong fatherly figure and I cling to him lol.
But then I'll realize that I'm a 30 year old heavy set man and I feel so stupid! :(

Do any of you experience anything similar?
I'm not even sure if I'm making any sense here.
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Re: Do you feel comfortable being a kid around others?

Postby debetoile » Sun Aug 04, 2013 10:35 am

Yup, I have the same and also often wonder what they notice and if they realise that we are multiple.
The main ones around nowadays are
Hannah (18) Hannah (5) Rachel (21) Rach(5) Tiffany (4) Layla (4) Steph (18-21) Kaja (18) Katie (14) Katy (14)
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Re: Do you feel comfortable being a kid around others?

Postby AltCtrlDel » Sun Aug 04, 2013 11:40 am

I don't realize I'm a kid sometimes. I'm usually okay, but sometimes I feel ashaned or awkward. Some people give me creepy vibes as a kid, but maybe that's just me?
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Re: Do you feel comfortable being a kid around others?

Postby ck0507 » Sun Aug 04, 2013 11:56 am

AltCtrlDel (LOVE your user name!)...I have a lot of co-consciousness so I'm usually aware in a distant way (if that makes any sense at all).
I don't really get creepy vibes from people though when I'm a kid...I actually find that I have FAR more trust in adults when I feel like a kid.
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Re: Do you feel comfortable being a kid around others?

Postby TheCollective » Sun Aug 04, 2013 12:09 pm

No I don't feel comfortable being like this at all but unfortunately it happens all the time. Lots more than I'm aware of. The creepiest thing is that people can actually see very this very clearly and some people start treating me like a child. They must think I'm nuts or something.
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Re: Do you feel comfortable being a kid around others?

Postby AltCtrlDel » Sun Aug 04, 2013 12:09 pm

Thank you :)

I only get creepy vibes from a couple people, like my husband (we're splitting though). Everyone else, I'm basically cool with. One young alt likes to tickle and laugh a lot (which can be embarassing lol)and the other like cartoons. Put on Fairly Oddparents or Avatar: The Last Airbender, and he's as happy as can be! :D
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Re: Do you feel comfortable being a kid around others?

Postby ck0507 » Sun Aug 04, 2013 12:39 pm

TheCollective:
"The creepiest thing is that people can actually see very this very clearly and some people start treating me like a child. They must think I'm nuts or something."

OMG THIS!
I act like a kid (I even start talking like a child) and sometimes people start treating me like a kid.

I don't know...it just makes me feel so dumb sometimes! I'm 30 years old!!! I shouldn't be acting like a child!

What's weird...is sometimes I feel like people even start viewing me as a child. It's kind of mind bending when I snap out of it and realize I'm an adult.


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I LOVE Avatar (really disliked the live action movie! :( ). 1 of the greatest cartoon series I've ever watched!
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Re: Do you feel comfortable being a kid around others?

Postby theoutsiders903 » Mon Aug 05, 2013 5:58 am

People often treat me as more of a child than my actual age.
I think for me though it's mostly due to my Autism. People see my tics and I apparently tend to have "childish" reactions to things (I'm not the best with verbal communication either so I apparently also tend to sound "young"), so they assume I need to be treated as a child.
Sometimes I don't mind it, other times I do.
It's frustrating to not be able to express the maturity you're able to manage or to express that you can comprehend things more than most children would. (I hope that makes sense).
At times though it is difficult for me to process things so I am grateful for being treated as a child because the simpler words and slower-paced input can help me to process stuff when I'm having a difficult day.
But as for realizing that I am acting younger than I can see people think I "should" be it makes me uncomfortable, because then I feel judged, and no one likes feeling judged, especially in a negative way.
(I don't think I really answered this in any way... it made more sense to me in my head but when I see it typed out it seems really out of place... so I hope it's okay).
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Re: Do you feel comfortable being a kid around others?

Postby niva » Mon Aug 05, 2013 1:49 pm

No, the littles only front with our T, or when triggered. Our T is so very kind and gentle to the little ones :). ninchen trusts him, more or less; Jane is learning to (she can't receive his care though).

Sonja is playful, but she can also pretend that she's older.
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Re: Do you feel comfortable being a kid around others?

Postby Una+ » Mon Aug 05, 2013 4:05 pm

Hi ck0507. I saw your post in the DDNOS forum, in an old thread I posted in (so the "View my posts" list brought it to my attention) and am glad that you finally are coming out to your therapist. It will make so much difference in your treatment! Some day when you feel more comfortable you may ask her when she first suspected you are a multiple and her reply may be something shocking to you like "in the first month" or even "the first session."

I don't have a child alter (a little) who is able to front like yours does, but I have experienced child alters fronting in others with DID. Other people respond to your child alter as to a child because that is exactly who is fronting. They can feel it. This is how so often other people know about us before we do, or at least before our host alter does. They know, just as when someone steps up close behind you you may know who is there.

Almost certainly your police chief professor has met many other multiples in the course of his career. And he probably has some working in his department. He may even know that they are multiples, in which case he probably already knows perfectly well that you are a multiple.
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