Why does't anyone beleive me?

I've been diagnosed three years ago but they only suspcted DID and until recently *(like six months ago) I finally got my DID diagnosis. Now I told my husbands friends about it but they "dont buy" it or whatever, and it makes me really sad. Like, they already know how weird I am and stuff, wouldn't all just click in their heads or something? LIke HELLO?! Am I the only crazy one? I feel so alone in the world because everybody thinks I'm faking it or something. These horrible things happen to me and nobdoy beleives me and it just breaks my heart. I don't know why I am teling you guys I guess just to vent but I just need someone to understand. Tanks for listening

Hi - you might consider finding new friends because these people are not supportive to you at all. I am very cautious about what I tell people because most people are NOT safe. I'm not sure how to help after the fact but there are a lot of nice people here who will be supportive to you!

My therapist tells me don't share ANYTHING with ANYBODY unless you are prepared for their not so great response. I have learned this the hard way and many times people can revictimize you with their idiotic responses!!!

I believe you and wish you the best in finding the support you need.

Journalgirl

w4rp3dh4l0 wrote:Now I told my husbands friends about it but they "dont buy" it or whatever, and it makes me really sad.

This gets my stock answer --- you can't fix stupid!!!! So don't try. You be you and let them be them. They probably have some things about them that you don't get.

There is so much out there in the popular media that they have made a circus out of DID. Until one digs in and studies it or deals with it, it seems like some odd abstract thing. Consider a DX that you know nothing out. There is no difference when it comes to being an idiot about it. I am an idiot about anything but DID and the stuff that goes with it.

I've got nothing new to add really. Just wanted to say that I believe you and yeah.. it's an unusual diagnoses so people have trouble understanding it. They're just ignorant. Maybe in time they'll come around? It took my parents a few years to accept it with me, for them to really get it. They didn't believe in it for a long time. Which makes no sense, they saw me grow up. They've met all my alters. But anyway, that's just people. I'm proud of you for having the bravery to tell people about it
Geoff

I am really sorry they reacted this way, but it is a brutal blessing. Many people you will come out to won't respond as you hoped. It's a difficult but vital lesson to learn. It hurts. It is invalidating. It is frustrating. More than anything else, it reflects poorly on the singlet. Don't wallow in it, if it can be avoided.

I have heard all of the following from people I have told in the past. "Everyone has different sides to their personality", "You named your moods", "It's very rare, so you probably don't have it", "You are too functional to be multiple," "You act too much alike vs You act too differently", "This is a made up disorder and doesn't exist", etc.

Maybe they don't accept it because it isn't Sybil that they see. You are taught to recognize people by their faces, their body, their tone of voice. Multiplicity is subtle. Perhaps they aren't observant enough to realize the differences in posture, intonation, gait, mannerisms, style, or how sometimes you like sugar in your coffee but other times you take it black and still other times you would have tea. The small clues aren't noticeable to most people. It’s not as sensational as the media would have it.

The fact that multiple minds can inhabit one brain is too foreign and obscure for some people. People can be total batshit featherhead pricks. You are your own authority, and you should treasure that. Nobody can rob you of your own experience, even if they are skeptics. You can walk away from their ignorance, or you can arm yourself with honesty and knowledge and your own truths, and let the chips fall where they may.

Maybe they will learn. For you sake, I would hope so. - Lola

So very much agreeing with galaxies (as always haha). I'm sorry they've reacted like that to you, that's very upsetting. I wish you the very best. Remember that this is who you are, and those that don't accept you for you don't deserve you. Good luck.

Yeah, I haven't had much experience with telling (I haven't told yet except to my mom), but I've read a bit about it here and there. What may help is first talking about more accepted disorders (autism, depression, dyslexia etc.) to 'test the waters' so to say. Maybe you have one of the more common ones to talk about (I've already had four in my life, two of which were wrong, so I have something to talk about ). When people respond oddly to them, just don't tell them any more.
Another thing that might help is when one of a group knows about it (and accepts it) to talk about it. May help for others to accept it.
I agree with Journalgirl, friends aren't real friend when they don't accept this.

I'm not that socially apt, so take this with a grain of salt (this is an understatement).

Thanks so much guys for the responses. It means a lot to me. Right now I'm freaking out about being perfect even with typing this response, that I can't even think straight. (I have OCD too and this personality has it bad) and stuff and I just wish that they would accept me because they all have each other and I don't have anyone around here that I'm really close with right now and I don't know what to do. I wih they knew what it felt like to be in my shoues but I guess so does everybody right? I don't know...I'm just effing sick of thing and maybe I should of just kept my mouth shut from the beginning but one day I want to make my story public and stuff. So I should just get used to having people react badly to it.

I have watched all this before and to be honest I couldn't stay silent nor still about my credibility let alone who I am, ignorance is bliss that's why we are suffering.
I send all my love and hope there is peace for us all <3