Staying safe from abusers?

*trigger warning*
Oh yes and we also have a "safe word" that everyone knows for anytime we are in danger. So if we ends up in a situation where we walk into someone we know (like we did the other day) we just say that and walk away swiftly so everything looks normal (so no one notices us) and we know how to deal from there.

We lived out of a suitcase for over a year too, just moving from place to place.
Hopefully next year won't be a re-run from that.

Here's to hoping at least

lifelongthing wrote:It's also illegal (entrapment) for us to contact them or get people to contact them.

Well, yes, this makes sense (at least from the perspective of the police). It may cause even more anger (if that is possible).

Yes, exactly.
Thank you for your suggestions

-- Sun Dec 16, 2012 1:55 pm --

I think we know lots about what is safe and not in regards to e-mails and such but I love for you to send me any information you have, if it's not too big of a bother Oaktree

Thank you very much for the PM Oaktree, I really appreciate it

.. Having to postpone our wedding because of this stuff Makes me want to crawl back inside and just not deal with anything. This life just isn't fair. But I guess it's not supposed to be. We will get through it all

That's awful, I'm so sorry to hear that I really hope things improve for you soon.

Thank you. I've been thinking of you today, hoping you're doing good Owleyes. It's okay, but of course it's upsetting. But in the end, if we want kids, we have to do this right so we don't put them in any future danger etc. Makes therapy and everything harder too, of course, but we are strong. We will deal with this and we will make it through

Thank you for thinking of me. I'm doing OK, I think. Had some triggery things happen the last few days but I feel like I'm handling it well. Proud of myself And, yes, you are strong, all of you, couldn't agree more.

We're proud of you too That's great that you're handling it well. I hope the triggers stop and that you feel all better very soon

It's not that this life isn't meant to or supposed to be fair for you, Lifelongthing. It's more like, things will happen when the time is right and when they're ready to happen. You will get married when the time is right. The time was simply not right for those plans, that's all. I know it can still suck, but it's important to realize that life isn't always unfair, and that things will indeed happen, just when the time is right. Try to not focus on the fact these plans fell through, because that will only get you down. Instead, try to focus on the fact that these plans can still happen, and will still happen, just at a different time is all.


Both you and Owleyes are in our thoughts. It's good to hear from you, by the way, Owleyes.


~The Hawk