Loss of self worth

Self worth is something I've always struggled with, and I consider a fulfilled sense of self worth to be one of the most important things to a person's happiness. After all, it seems like most things we do, in some way, are done with the goal of becoming a person that we're more happy with.

Recently, however, it's gotten a great deal worse recently. I've noticed that almost all my friends are gone. The people who used to tell me I'm important to them and they genuinely like me as a person have almost all stopped talking to me, either gradually or abruptly. And I can't figure out why. I know that people change and grow apart eventually, but I'm left with practically no one, and there's no logic to it that I can figure out. People would tell me they care about me a lot and then shortly after start ignoring me indefinitely. It seems like the only reason it would happen in so many different cases is that I must simply be terrible as a person. I look at myself, my life, my accomplishments. It all seems inane and stupid, adding up to nothing. If there were something to like about me, clearly people would like me. Everyone else seems to have such fulfilled social lives and confidence in comparison. My life feels empty and directionless, and I can't see any value in it. I can't find much motivation to try to accomplish anything either, because it seems to always amount to nothing anyways.

Has anyone been through something similar and gotten out of it?

Dear averagelow,
Have you tried contacting any of your friends who appear to have stopped talking to you? It may be that they would like to see you and have got busy, but a reminder might just help. People usually relate to you if you take an interest in them, so they might appreciate it if you just call to catch up.

If not then it may be worth joining some clubs or going to some new places or something. If you're worried about starting conversations, some places you can start are by asking about peoples jobs/hobbies/travel and families. There are definitely people around who are genuine and will care for you. I have gotten a lot of support over the years from people at my church.

I doubt that you are a terrible person- don't keep telling yourself that or you'll end up really believing it. Have you done any thing that you see as terrible? If not, then its probably the depression talking. It makes you think so negatively. That's what I find with it. Its so difficult sometimes. I'm sorry that you're feeling so alone.

My counselor helped me to make a list of the things that are good about me and that helped to realize I had some worth as a person. Have you thought about counseling? I think it would definitely help you. I hope this is helpful, would like to hear how you get on.