I Think My Brother Has Depresion

Recently my 23 year old brother has been a bit... I'd say pathetic. His lifestyle is disgusting and I don't see him going anywhere. He still lives at home with My little brother, parents and me, and he works a low paying job. For fun he spends I'd say about half of his paycheck on retro video games that he collects. While he's at home he walks around in his underwear and my laptop that he has taken as his own and watches online video game review shows on youtube 24/7. He's also extremely selfish. Whenever my little brother asks to use my laptop my older brother tells him he can't use it, it's so childish and selfish. He's EXTREMELY selfish and if he doesn't get his way he will be very mad. He leaves messes EVERYWHERE I always clean his mess up in the kitchen, and his room is so dirty it's gross, I hate going down there.

I was going to pick up my girlfriend from the airport (she was living with us) which is a 50 minute drive and I needed his help. He reluctantly accepted to take on the task. maybe a few days before going to the airport he informs me he will not go unless he gets to go look for video games in toronto. I told him that's extremely selfish that he'd pick up my girlfriend that just flew in from a 13 hour flight from Korea and then go look for video games with me and her in the car. He got very mad and started yelling at me, and I'm sure at that point he wasn't feeling to good about him self, because that's disgusting what he did.

He was mad at my recently because I sold one of his games by accident. He was talking to my grandmother and he told her that my girlfriend is annoying to have around the house. He can't wear just his underwear, she doesn't speak any english and when he talks to her all she asys is yes and no. I was so furious when my grandmother told me about this. my girlfriend comes all the way from Korea knowing a good bit of english, but think about it, she's a 18 year old girl going to a new country for the first time and not being able to use her native language, and he's going to say things like that because I sold his ######6 game? I understand it's his hobby but it was an accident and I said I'd buy him another (I paid way too much for it by the way). So pathetic.

Recently he started drinking by himself in his room after he gets home from work at 12-2am almost every night. I go down there sometimes to talk with him and every time I go down there he's drunk. His life is so pathetic this past year and It's really hard to see him like this and he can't be living in my parents house at the age of 23 not helping out at all and leaving messes everywhere he goes.

After looking at all this I brought it up to my friend and he said that he probably has depression. It completely makes sense to me. I thought I'd come here because I used to have social anxiety and the forum really helped me, so I know you all can help me this time as well. What do you guys think? Does he have derepssion? should I confrom him about it? What do I do?? Thanks so much for any help you can give me, it really helps a lot.

He could be depressed, or lazy and selfish, or stuck somewhere between kid and adult and still figuring out his place in the world; it's hard to talk to people about these things because they often don't want to hear it. We all have to recognize that we need help for ourselves and do something about it. You could certainly tell him you're concerned about him and ask if he wants to talk about anything. I have a younger brother, 27, whom we all believe to be depressed but he never wants to talk about it, if I ask him a direct question he is very evasive and never gives a serious answer, he is also recovering from a drug problem but it's not something he talks about, I figured it out over time, he still lives with our dad, hasn't finished school, doesn't have a job, and has no plans to move out or ever take care of himself. He helps our dad with his business but not consistently, he neglected to do a very important test the other day and now our dad has to deal with the repercussions with that. Anyway, our brothers have to want to help themselves before we can do anything. I have a natural inclination to want to help everyone and solve their problems but, this just isn't realistic and I've been working on letting go and accepting that I'm only responsible for myself, other people are responsible for their own choices in life.