So, I'm highly depersonalized. Coping advice?

As a background, I'm pretty much sure I have Dissociative identity disorder. I've spent the last two years sorting that out, and pulling myself back "into reality", out of the creepy fog.

Long story short, one of myselves, the one who has been running the show lately, was rambling and freaking out and said it felt like an alien in its own skin, etc. And suddenly it hit me.

Holy freaking crap, that's not just a symptom or a natural side effect of being an alter. Timothy's not depersonalized, nor are certain other parts in here, but what that part described, that's depersonalization right there. Not all parts have that issue, but most have it to some degree, and the current co-host might as well be living life in the third person and is scared shitless that somebody's gonna realize it ain't "me", that it's not human or whatnot.

So I guess my question is this: So I know another part of my problem. What can I do about it?

Thanks.

Hi I don't think there is much you can do about depersonalization. Mine comes and goes on its own. But I do have a few suggestions. Depersonalization makes you feel like a zombie, a robot. Sometimes being around someone I really care about can drag me back to reality a bit. If you've gone depersonalized because of a particular situation causing emotions you can't cope with, then trying to tap into those emotions so you can experience them, process them, the depersonalization may lift when the emotions are dealt with. What happens is you have to come back a bit to connect with those emotions, but when it gets too much you'll shut down again. It's like you can only deal with the emotions a little at a time. That's what depersonalization is, a defence mechanism to protect you. If the situation causing the emotions is ongoing, you'll have to sort that out too. That's easier said than done if the situation causing the problem turns out to be D.I.D. related. But the good news is nobody else needs to know about your depersonalization. Think of what the normal reaction to something is and do that. Like if someone is ill one day, ask how they are the next day and if they still ill say you hope they better soon and try to sound sympathetic about it. Smile when you say hello to people. Stuff like that. You don't feel the emotion, but you can still learn the rules of how to behave, then people don't feel you're cold and heartless. Depersonalization makes you blank-faced lacking expression, so remember to smile when it's appropriate and wrinkle your eyes a bit too or people think your smile is fake. If anyone notices your blank face or dead eyes just say you're tired, or something has upset you badly and you've gone emotionally numb. Other people can understand those things. X