Not sure about reality

My wife and i have had problems for the 7 years we have been married. alot of it is due to her accusations that i have wronged her in some way. i was in the millitary for most of this time so we werent around family much, when i got out of millitary and moved home her family and friends started dening certain event that she say shaped her life. when i confront her about these things she either says there lying or crazy or that they never said it. so what am i suppoesed to believe or think really need help. recently she kicked me out and moved into a friends house with my kids because her mom confronted her about one of the stories

You should ask to make a decision.

Have you talked to her mom in detail about this? If you trust her mom, maybe you two could get together and try to come up with a common plan of action. Maybe one of you could talk to a family doctor or psych to get some advice as well. There are no easy answers. Make sure your kids are safe and not being affected.

good luck.