i need help... i think im a compulsive liar.

hey.... im 17, female and think im a compulsive liar... im always lying to my friends about everything...which means im not the person they think i am.
i really need to know if there is anything i can do to stop myself because i always juat blurt out new lies which contridict old lies, so people question if im lying or not... and im really worried they are going to find out.
Next year i'll be going to university which means i have the chance for a fresh start but im worried il just lie to new people i meet.

i really need some advice as i dont want to ask anyone i know in case they realise most of the things i have told them are lies...
i'd be really grateful to any replys.

thanks.
anno xx

Hello,
It's good you have realized that you can't go on lying. I suggest you see a counciller. They can help you work through, like why you lie, how you lie, and stuff like that.
Why do you lie? Is it because you want to be better than others, or you just want to be cool, or is it coz you don't like who you are? If its coz you don't like yourself, you need to learn to like yourslef, you are you and you are special. I know that is easier said then done but a counciller can help you work through it. Like you siad you can make a fresh start when you go to uni next year, that's good coz it gives you some time to stop your lying.
Good luck with the councilling and have a good xmas!

Anno, im not sure if you read my post in another thread but my situation had quite a few similarities.

In that I was told to tell my friend directly that I am a compulsive lier, and although he wasnt exactly thrilled with me telling him that our communication links havent seemed to have broken (which I was most afraid would be his reaction to me telling him that).

Tell one of your friends directly your unhonest habits, I hope that helps

Hey girl I'm only a few years older and I still fight with the problem every day. What I have found works the best is finding people who hold you accountable. Some one you trust compleatly like a couselor who deals with this all the time is great because you know it won't go to any one else (patient confidentiality is a great thing). How ever not all of us like me can financially afford to pay for someone to help us out. My reason I lied my way into debt trust me you don't want to go there. now I've been lucky my best friend in the world called me on the lieing and holds me accountable and so does my husband. But when they are not around I've got to deal on my own. In some places I've turned to obsesive cleaning and organizing to keep me distracted. And I listen to self-esteem building recordings on my I pod when I work so I'm more likely to garble anything not thought out before I say it. I know what it is like to lie with out thinking and I don't feel like I'm lieing about any thing I say untill afterwards when I think about what I said. If I can I catch myself in the middle and bite my toung sometimes a little hard but usually enough to stop the flow of words and I pause before continuing then clarify the untruthful words.

Also the biggest thing I've done for myself is every morrning I look in the mirror and say "Every day and in every way I am getting better and better I am okay" three times and I force myself to look myself in the eye. This is a quote that a friend gave me to help out with all the issues that I'm working through.

There is always hope and there are always people around you who are willing to help and to love you. I've gone through some rough times and thought no one would ever love me. What happened a few months latter i had a guy banging on the door trying to get to know me the real me. It was a turning point and from the start he did everything he could to help me including telling me when I was lieing so I could stop. Piece of advice don't give up on your self it'll be hard but with the right people around you and determination you can do this.

hi anno, im 14 and understand what you mean.
i dont know what happened to the old me. ever since i startd high school 2 yrs ago i have felt the need to lie. my friends think that i am some one who i am not. its almost a feeling that unless i have an amazing story to tell about my life they wont like me and that other people around me will not notice me.
i tell terrible lies all the time, i dont plan to they just come out, its like a really quick adrenaline rush that i get while im telling the lies then i feel really guilty afterwards. i keep trying to stop but i cant seem 2 stop lying. i keep hoping that as i get older my life will just sort itself out but i know that it will not be like that. i do not want to be lying in 10 yrs time still.
i really hope that you can sort this thing out for yourself and if you manage to please tell me how.
best of luck
chapter14 x