::My Sisters Lying::

My sister is constantly lying. The first time I remember her lying like this was in Jr. High when she told some of the kids she went to school with that we had baby poodles that we were bottle feeding & giving away. She gave out our phone number to the kids 7 the parents called wanting to get one of these dogs. She told numerous lies like this after that. Then things started getting worse. She came to me & told me that My Husband came after her with a Baseball Bat. (she was living with us at the time) So I believed her I guess because, why would she lie about something like this? So I packed my sh*t and moved to Kansas with my mom. Finding out later on (2 weeks) that she was lying & it never happened. The about 2 months ago she told My Moms Brother & Sister that my Dad was using Crystal Meth & that he told my mom if she left him he would hunt her down & kill her, that too a lie. Most recently she told us that her Boyfriend, who she was living with was physically & verbally abusing her.

I am just so confused as to how to handle this?!? I have tried talking to her & being sincere, I have tried cussing her out, I just yesterday told her that I cant talk to her anymore. Her lying is causing me so much pain. I just dont know what to do with her. I could use any advice I could get!!

Thanks so much!!

I would try to establish why she lies, what her motivation is for lying.

It seems like her lies are designed to create need in other people, a need for information. Your husband with the bat, you need her to tell you what happend. The puppies, the people needed her to give them more information.

Id be willing to bet its that desire that she wants, that feeling of being needed by someone to provide something.

My best advice is to talk to her and try to establish why she lies. If you can, corner her in a lie but dont be angry. If your angry, you'll shut her down and she wont say a word. But dont under-blow it, she needs to understand that what shes doing hurts other people.

Shortcake, I wish I had an answer for you, but I don't I can only tell you that I understand your pain as I live with the pain and fustration of my 13 year old daughter's compulsive lying. My best to you.

Thanks for your support. I appreciate it! I am not trying to get my hopes up, but she seems to be doing better. She recently spoke with a couple people at a Mental Health Center near her home. My Mom took her & was there to keep her inline. She brought up a lot of things that we didn't know were bothering her & seems to be doing much better since she has been able to talk about them...

Hoping & Praying-
ShortcakeCo3