I feel like my life is over

Hi,i am a 35 year old man that is a cumpulsive/habitual liar.I lie about anything. I am on my second separartion from my wife.It seems when we separate,we cant live without eachother because we get right back together.Our relationship seems to always go down the wrong road. I would say that 99% of our problems are due to me telling lies. Ive been in counseling for a few years but have just recently gotten to the possible cause of me lying.My wife told me last week that we need time apart. She says we both need to find our innerselves.Neither of us have or plan on taking out rings off.I love this woman more than life itself and i hate breaking her heart. I dont lie on purpose,i just lie before i think. My wife wont speak to me now because she wants time apart. I dont have many friends so its hard to deal with all of this alone. I have recently ordered some reading material on telling lies.I want this to stop! I love my wife more than the world and i want her in my life. I guess i joined here because i have nowhere else to get things off my chest.I aslo joined here to hopefully get help from other people that have battled this problem.Well,thanks for reading and i look forward to reading the replies

John Carpenter

Hi, jjcarp123! Could you and your wife go to counselling together? Now that you know what the cause for the lying might be, you can work on yourself and your relationship. Talking about it might help you. She might have the right idea and having a little time to yourself to deal with this stuff could be good for you. If you feel strong enough, you can ask her to come back and ask for her support. You and your therapist could come up with a plan for you to deal with your problem and its cause and if you tell your wife about it, she could see that you are serious about changing and that you're doing your best.
You can come here and talk any time.

Thanks Jasmin.My wife basically dont want to talk to me right now.She says we need time for us to work on ourselves.I kind of get mixed feeling from her because she said she hasnt and dont plan on taking her wedding ring off. This gives me hope. Then she said another time that we need time apart and that if its meant to be then our paths will cross again. I am so confused and so alone.Im having a real bad day with this today and my counselor is out of her office. Im searching for support groups in baltimore,MD but have yet to find any. I know all this is my fault. I know i caused her alot of pain. I am just so alone right now and have no clue what to do. Are there any members on here from baltimore that could lend an ear sometime?

(((((((((jj))))))))) You have an illness and you can't keep blaming yourself for ever. You are responsible for your actions, but you're responsible for doing your best to change and make it up to your wife too. You are a good person. If you feel lonely, you can post here, but I know it's not the same as having someone there with you sometimes.