Maze of lies

Just found myself at this site and figured I really should post as i'm realizing now my whole life is at risk because of compulsive lying and i desperately need advice on what to do before it's too late. I think it's always been in my nature to lie but never as much as i have over the last years, i can remember doing silly lies as a child for my own amusement and even the first time i ever lied. Used to see lying as something terrible and now somehow i've incorporated it so my life is literally revolving around a carefuly stacked labyrinth of lies.

I started a new relationship a few years ago and fell deeply in love with someone and they with me. It felt like i'd found my soulmate as we had so much in common and i honetsly had never been happier to be with someone. We lived in a pretty much ecstatic state for about a year and then quite suddenly came across problems when trying to sort our life out. I first lied to her as a sort of half lie, telling her it would all be ok because i'd do something that seemed very far away so it felt like i had plenty of time to actually make it real. When that didnt happen i lied again and again until i got her totally sick of waiting. Its become so more drastic now though where i find myself literally lying about almost everything so much that despite not being found out i've lost trust and she thinks i'm incapable of anything. things like money transfers that i've created a multitude of excuses for down to much, much more extreme things.

Now i feel it has to stop or she will leave me, i'm creating far more woe for her than i should be as i only ever started to stop her from crying and now its just turned in to a maze of lies that are all created to support another lie etc. I know now if i just faced the crying that started all this she would have fixed things herself and i should never have tried to protect her as it hurt her in the long run, but now there are so many lies i feel like i've created an almost fantasy world for her where almost everything can and will go wrong because everything is based on lies. I am asked every day if x or y has happened and i always have to say no so i am used to letting her down which is dreadful.

This cant go on because i love her and i genuinely just want to make her happy, but only real things will do that not lies and so i'm somehow stuck with either having to make the lies become a reality ie. get lots of money i promised, and achieve all that i've said i would which is very difficult in a short space of time or risk losing her. And losing hers the last thing i want. Has anyone else gotten themselves in a situation like this or am i total freak? Can it be resolved? I genuinely want it to be.

Hi, jaleask! You can't build your relationship on lies, and she will find out sooner or later. She should find out from you. You could tell her that you have a problem and that you want to get help. Try to go see a doctor about this and tell her everything that's been going on. Remind her that you love her and you want to fight your illness for her sake. It might mean that she won't want to be with you for a while or she'll be very mad, but it's better than lying until she leaves.
I'm telling you how I'd want someone that I was involved with to deal with the situation.

Hi, jaleask.If you dont want to lose her you have to come clean. I am going through the same thing but i didnt admit my problem in time. My wife and i seperated and its the worst feeling when you cant be with the one you love. Please sit her down and explain everything.Hopefully she will give you the support you need to get help.