I don't know why I do it.

A recent incident at a message board I visit on the internet made me realize what a complete fraud I am.

I make up so many lies...I'm beginning to have trouble deciphering between reality and the things I've made up. There are people and things that I talk about all the time that don't even exist. It isn't that I don't realize I'm lying. I know I'm doing it, but I don't know how to stop. It's like I open my mouth and a lie comes out because there's nothing else to say. I'll lie about stupid things...saying I read a news story about something someone is talking about even though I haven't. I'll go into details about it and everything and they always believe me.

I've lied about bigger things...saying I used to be addicted to drugs when in reality I've never even smoked a cigarette or drank alcohol. I've said I was raped, and so many other things.

It's gotten to a point where I just want to pack up my stuff and move somewhere that I don't know anyone and cut off contact with everyone I know and just start over. I can't admit that my entire life has been a lie because I know everyone would hate me and I don't even know if they'd believe me because I'm so elaborate in my lies and I know how convincing I am. I speak like I'm telling the truth.

I hate myself for doing this but I don't know how to stop and I don't understand why I do it.

I'm not sure why I'm posting here...I just need to know I'm not alone, I think.

i just read your post...im only 16 and i feel the same exact way...i do a lot of the same things you have done and im afraid that it's going to get to that point. I just wanted to let you know that your not alone....write back if you want to chat

Hi: I have a 12 year old daughter who lies all the time, so I know what you are talking about. First thing is, Don't hate yourself! You need to start loving yourself more, get yourself into activities that you love, that way you will have things to talk about and not have to lie about it. I am no oversimplifiing your situation one bit, all I am say is you are a victim of your own preception of yourself. It's like if enough people tell you something negative about you, soon you will believe it. Really look at yourself and you will find the wonderful beauty that is you. Good luck

" I can't admit that my entire life has been a lie because I know everyone would hate me and I don't even know if they'd believe me because I'm so elaborate in my lies and I know how convincing I am. I speak like I'm telling the truth. "

Chances are they know your lying already. If they are your family members they love you and that's why they put up with your lies. If they are your friends maybe they accept what you say with a grain of salt. If they are people you just know but are not really attacheded to, does it really matter if they cannont handle the truth and do not wish to speak with you any longer?

You do not like the person you have become. You want help, you want to change. You can do it.

The truth is so much better then lies. Most people can handle the truth they just cannot handle the lies. It's what you need to remember.

Truth is I'm a factory worker. It's not a glamourous life and I wish I did something else for a living. When people ask what I do for a living I tell them I'm a factory rat. If they think less of me for it, then that's their problem not mine. I'm not going to lie to make myself look better. I think doing just fine.

After reading a lot of the posts on this subject, to be honest instead o making me feel better it has revolted me. I came to this web site to help find an answer to why one of my dearest friends constantly lies and it's over stupid things that any of you would know are just lies. However, every time that we confront her about this she goes into aa huge huff until we are all so freaked out by her we just agree to keep the peace. I want to know why lie about someething when it is so obvious that it's not true. Is it attention? to big note yourself? feel more important with your peers? I just don't get it. And the thing is that if you are all liars well then I have a wake-up caall for you, WE KNOW YOU'RE LIARS. just give me a clue to why you do it because my patience has be drawn so thin I'm ready to snap aat this girl and not worry about the consequences. One more question what will she be like when i catch her out? what would you be like?[/b]

After reading a lot of the posts on this subject, to be honest instead o making me feel better it has revolted me. I came to this web site to help find an answer to why one of my dearest friends constantly lies and it's over stupid things that any of you would know are just lies. However, every time that we confront her about this she goes into aa huge huff until we are all so freaked out by her we just agree to keep the peace. I want to know why lie about someething when it is so obvious that it's not true. Is it attention? to big note yourself? feel more important with your peers? I just don't get it. And the thing is that if you are all liars well then I have a wake-up caall for you, WE KNOW YOU'RE LIARS. just give me a clue to why you do it because my patience has be drawn so thin I'm ready to snap aat this girl and not worry about the consequences. One more question what will she be like when i catch her out? what would you be like?[/b]

i can identify with you so much
I am 17 years old and I have been lying ever since I remember. I lie about going out ... I lie about my grades, knowing that my parents will find out sooner or later... i cheat on all my boyfriends... I say that my cousin is a famous singer... and the other one is a model... it is all a BIG LIE... I lie about my age... I lie about what I ate during the day... I lie about everything really... I lie about having been to places... I lie about everything
and I don't know how to stop
Ive gotten in trouble so many times because of it... and I don't know what to dooooo
and I DONT EVEN HAVE TO LIE... EVEN MORE... THINGS WOULD BE SO MUCH BETTER IF I DIDNT BUT YET I DO I KEEP ON LYING AND I DUNNO HOW TO STOP.. I JUST OPEN MY MOUTH AND A LIE POPS OUT!
Someone please help me
-Mon-